That's kind of lame in non-conservative circles, it's not ballsy and can backfire easily. But if you live in a traditional society, like the whole of Asia, arranged marriage is the way to go, so who am I to say it sucks.I may have come up with an even better idea: I thought I'd drop a hint to her family's matriarch (who I see more often than I see this girl) that I like the girl, and see how far the older lady runs with the idea. I'm hoping she'd get excited at the chance to play matchmaker, and she could arrange a meeting between us pretty easily.
He knows her socially through their families. I think they live in a farmer country where farms are worked by extended families and are far from each other, so the dating difficulties are obvious - incest is a popular hobby.Small talks usually work best. Does she live nearby?
Colorado girl might have you as a sexting toy. Don't force anything.My dating non-adventures continue: the girl from Colorado and I had been talking regularly for a few weeks, but lately we haven't been texting as much as we've both been busy with work. She's been fun to talk to, though. I think an in-person meeting is out of the question, though. Even though flirting and sexting makes up 95% of our conversations, I definitely get the impression that she's not ready to actually have sex with someone. Which I'm perfectly fine with: my libido seems to have gone down quite a lot since I was a teenager, thank God, so I'm not desperate to get laid. I've just been enjoying the fun we've been having.
Talking with the Colorado girl has boosted my confidence, too: There's this girl, a neighbor of ours, who I've been noticing for a while. She's a few years younger than me, and her family and my family are all neighbors and friends, so I was afraid that asking her out would be a bad idea and that it might make things awkward between me and her family later on if we broke up. Basically I think I was overthinking it and generally lacking in self-confidence, which is typical. But now, I want to go for it. She seems like a nice girl from a similar background to me, and if I'm ever going to find someone I'm going to have to take a chance, right? Only trouble is, I don't see her to talk to very often, and when I have it's always been in passing when there have been other people around. I've been in that situation before with my last crush, and I don't want to be in it again, no sir. I'm too old to be the kid who likes the girl he always sees from a distance, but never asks her out. I'm brave enough to ask her out, I just need to meet her more often, and preferably find the right social situation where I'm not pressed for time and we're not surrounded by our family members. Not sure how to make that happen, other than to just stay in contact with her family and hope I see her one of these days, I guess. This is where I can get really frustrated at my lack of social skills.
I misread that as dirty biking, and was very amusedDirt biking
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Re: Colorado girl: I believe you are correct. Like I said, that's fine. I told her early on that I'd be open to meeting her in person, but I could tell she wasn't into that so I didn't push it.Colorado girl might have you as a sexting toy. Don't force anything.
Re Neighbor Girl: You need to hang out with her. Find out if she's actually interesting, and interested. Maybe a cool passtime? Dirt biking, going for a hike, anything? Think of it as a very casual date.
To be honest, we haven't spoken enough for me to say one way or the other.How has she spoken to you, in those instances? Has it been very mechanical, to-the-point, or has there been joking, smiles, laughs?
That's a good idea. I think in person would be ideal, as there's more of a connection when talking face to face than there is through a DM, but if meeting in person to ask her out is going to be difficult to achieve then perhaps a DM would be a better way. I have been trying to see her in person but haven't had any luck yet. Been hoping to catch her before she goes on vacation, but if I don't, oh, well. I'll just have to wait a little while longer.I'd say, given that you've clearly met and spoken, I wouldn't hesitate to add her on social media, and message her there.
I say just go to her place and talk to her. I am not sure how old you are, but since you mentioned something about teenagers when I was in a high school I had a special gift for overthinking things way too much and making my life more difficult than it needed to be, especially when it comes to dating. If she likes you things will be easy, if she doesn't the sooner you know the better so that you can move on.Late reply, sorry.
To be honest, we haven't spoken enough for me to say one way or the other.
That's a good idea. I think in person would be ideal, as there's more of a connection when talking face to face than there is through a DM, but if meeting in person to ask her out is going to be difficult to achieve then perhaps a DM would be a better way. I have been trying to see her in person but haven't had any luck yet. Been hoping to catch her before she goes on vacation, but if I don't, oh, well. I'll just have to wait a little while longer.