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I think the monthly and per-defeat relationship change should be dropped entirely. Instead, you occasionally are called to the clan patriarch (like the marshal calling you) and he gives you a quest related to the family that either grants you relationship with all the clan, or lowers it if you fail. Such as: if any of the clan is imprisoned, you get a "free them" quest, or you may get quests to duel or denounce rivals of the clan, or to escort one of the clan ladies, etc.