Ash Plissken
Recruit
A note regarding throwing feasts as king/marshal of your own faction:
If you've got more lords trying to attend your feast than will actually fit in your castle, and want to get rid of the higher-relation lords to make room for the ones you really need to talk to, just send them on a task to patrol around a far-away town (or a closer town, if you want to see them again in the near future). When you exit to the town menu and come back to the castle, the higher-relation lords will already have left for their task, and the next lords down the list will now be there for you to talk to. Repeat as necessary until all of the lords in your castle are ones you want to continue raising relations with, or until ladies start showing up (indicating that there are no more lords in the queue).
Also, try to make sure that the lords whose relations you need to raise only have fiefs relatively close to your capital, because in my experience they will leave every so often to check in at their home, and you want them to return to the feast as quickly as possible.
If you've got more lords trying to attend your feast than will actually fit in your castle, and want to get rid of the higher-relation lords to make room for the ones you really need to talk to, just send them on a task to patrol around a far-away town (or a closer town, if you want to see them again in the near future). When you exit to the town menu and come back to the castle, the higher-relation lords will already have left for their task, and the next lords down the list will now be there for you to talk to. Repeat as necessary until all of the lords in your castle are ones you want to continue raising relations with, or until ladies start showing up (indicating that there are no more lords in the queue).
Also, try to make sure that the lords whose relations you need to raise only have fiefs relatively close to your capital, because in my experience they will leave every so often to check in at their home, and you want them to return to the feast as quickly as possible.