I started enjoying multiplayer for some reason. I think it's because I stopped 'fighting' and just go for the cheap shots. I think I also learned to accept I only have limited control over my character.
Of course once the cav gets out of hand I start hating it again. I hit a galloping horse on the head with a two handed axe and it doesn't even flinch, or worse, the rider's shield blocks it even though it's 3 feet behind the horse's head.
But I no longer despise the combat. It ain't no Warband, but I can play for an hour or two.
Oh, and I was always fine with the ranged. It always seemed much less cancerous than in Warband.