activate cheat menu and boost your renoun to like 4K like me
and go affilate with a family, they'll give you support almost all the time if you have anyone at 100 relationship
the thing is that, the deciding factor is of the following:
1. Is the estate you owned capped by your renown?
- yes, then lords will say "you're already awarded with things that fits you properly" or something along the line, NOTE THAT THIS CAP OVERRULES EVERYTHING ELSE SO YOU WON"T RECEIVE ANY MORE CASTLE/TOWN/VILLAGE IF YOU ARE RENOWN CAPPED (calculated by points so you can give up a town to have the chance of getting 3 villages before being renown capped)
example: I have 2000 renown and owns 3 town (9 points) 3 castle (6 points) and 4 villages (4 points) totalling up 19 points. the general rule is every 100 renown past 100, you will get one "estate point" enabling you to get more stuff without being renown capped. Since i already have 19 points capped for my 2000 renown, I cant get any more estate what-so-ever until i gain more renown.
- no, then lords will say something else
2. Did you capture the castle?
- yes, then lord will say "since xxxxx captured the castle he deserves it" it gives a big boost to deciding factor but can be overcome by persuasion (ai lord will never persuade others)
3. Are you popular amongst the lords, can you persuade them?)
- If you capture the castle + have 100 relationship with lord, have 10 in persuasion : only renown cap can stop you from making him support you (they will most likely defaultly support you)
- if you captured the castle + have 100 relationship with lord : you mostly won't have to try to persuade them as they will support you already
- if you didnt capture castle but have 100 relationship + 10 persuasion : you will most likely have to persuade him because his default will be someone else (most likely the capturer) persuasion difficulty depends on his relation with his supporting lord (if 100 like his daddy its gonna be hard)
- if you didnt capture castle, is below 70 relationship, but has 10 persuasion: its like a 50/50 chance
-if you didnt capture castle , is below 40 relationship, but has 10 persuasion: its not going to suceed.
-persuading a king gives a bigger bonus (always suck his **** as a rule)
-Sadistic and those bad personalities will support themself much more often, even if they didnt capture the castle
-Cunning and those neutral personalities will support themself if they capture the castle, and when they have no estate (first joined)
-martial and those good persnalitie will almost always support others even if they did capture the castle, and will often support others even if they dont have an estate
-you can't convince thoose that supports themself to support you
my general rule is to have a group of good natured etc personality lord at 100 in your kingdom and being at 100 with your king will almost gaurentee the castle be granted to you.