At this point I think we all expect different things. When I played the game for the first time based on my expectations I had a very, very bad experience, in fact I hated the game, made various threads and some of them I think they hold up, but some of them don't.
Now that I played it the game, no mods just how it is I had a great time, I'm about to start my own kingdom and see what happens, it's the most fun I've had since Warband tbh.
So modders will add those flavorous things that will make the game better and unique for each other, and the fact they now let you use little mods instead of big packages of mods shows they know this is how people play it, but if you play it without big expectations of how the game is supposed to be, the game actually holds up very well, and becoming a badass with a feared army does gives the player a great feeling. I am waiting for them to fix the AI and the performance issues, and then I would say my experience is flawless.