Stonewall382 said:
*Puts one hand forward, palm up*
DE, we've had some contact in the past. I've been a member for almost a year now. I'm not some n00b who's here to start a fight. Let me take your questions one by one, so that I can (hopefully) explain myself more clearly and constructively.
I know you are not a noob
- and thank you for the cordial reply!
So much more can be accomplished through constructive discussion.
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Deus Ex said:
Stonewall382 - please explain to me exactly what you are upset about? What was it from MY post (which you quoted) that you feel was inappropriate or wrong?
You said that
Deus Ex said:
...[experienced modders] often times get so fed up with the sheer IDIOCY of many posters - they give up and they stop coming here - hence we lose their valuable insight and experience.
, which to me, sounds like you want the rest of us to adapt to the wants of the experienced, veteran modmakers. To me, that doesn't sound fair.[/quote]
Ahhh, well - I did not actually say that. I was making an observation. If all of the experienced folks (modders and non-modders alike) who have been here for a long time, and have lots to contriubute, got fed up and left, I think it would be a REAL SHAME. I would hate to see that happen. The primary reason for the existance of this forum is for us to collect and share information about this game. Personally I would like to see EVERYONE be a bit kinder. But sometimes people get a bit fed up. (and given my own frustration level regarding the signal-to-noise ratio here, it is hard for me to get very upset about that)
Stonewall382 said:
Deus Ex said:
So you are saying Winter was ******* for his comment?
Is he an *******? No. Was his comment unnecessarily rude? Yes.
Perhaps. But perhaps you should also notice that I was very even-handed with EH - I tried to explain that - yes, while the minor issue that got Winter's goat is indeed not such a big deal - the problem is LOTS and LOTS of minor things, add up. Could winter have let it go? Should winter have let it go? - probably. On the other hand, I would be willing to bet (actually I know for a fact) that he constantly lets lots of minor **** like that go. So it is real hard for me to get real upset at him.
Stonewall382 said:
I mean that those experienced modders who don't like the patrons here can still make mods, and we can still give them feedback, but they don't have to come here and be rude to the rest of us.
That is entirely valid. However, I doubt that they don't like all the patrons - just a subset who don't take the time to learn how to be part of this community. While this is certainly an option, again, I would hate to see that happen - since many of them have tremendous knowledge and experience with the game - and for the most part are glad to share that knowledge and help others.
Stonewall382 said:
Deus Ex said:
Stonewall382 said:
Now that said, I know Winter's a good guy, as are most of the veteran modders here, and most are willing to help newbies (I know from experience), I just hate that mentality. I've expressed my distaste for it before.
Please elaborate. What mentality is it that you dislike?
I am trying to understand what you find to be so bad.
I'm referring to the idea, as I interpret it, that people who make mods and make them well are given free reign to belittle, criticize, and deter others, because of their abilities. I just don't agree with the idea that the community should be forced to adapt to the personalities of a few patrons; rather, the veteran modders should have to either adapt to the community and be courteous and considerate, or be forced to leave if they don't on their own.
If this is really the way the mod team wants to operate, and armagan is okay with it, I guess I can't really change anything. At the very least though, I
can express my disagreement on the matter.
Now I have to say, that is most definitely YOUR interpretation. As far as I am concerned, NOBODY on these forums (well perhaps Armagan) has the right or the free reign to belittle, criticize or deter others - regardless of their modding abilities or experience. THAT is how I feel about it. In fact, IMHO a couple of the worst offenders in this regard do not even MOD, but have simply been around a long time. IMHO EVERYONE should be less rude, and a lot more patient than most are. That said, I have only been doing this job for a short while, and I cannot change everything over night
. I agree, some of the 'vetran' members do tend to get away with being quite rude, quite often.
Stonewall382 said:
Deus Ex said:
Stonewall382 said:
*Prepares to butt heads with the mods once again*
Hmm, sounds a bit like you are coming in here looking for a fight. I would have to say, that might not be the best approach...
I was referring to the fact that the last time I brought this up, I got into an argument with Pav via PMs. We sorted it out, but I just figure I'll be disagreeing with the mods here, and that's potentially dangerous territory.
At any rate, I appreciate you reading my concerns and offering to help, Deus.
Well, I am not Pav, nor am I Nair, LL, or Narc. I am just me. I cannot begin to speak for them. All I can do is try to be as consistent as I can - by myself. I agree - sometimes some of the vetran folks here get a bit more slack than others do. ~shrug~ we are only human.
What I will say - I see way too much rudness around here. Period.
I try very hard to be polite and informative to folks who make mistakes. This takes quite a bit of my time to do - rather than just locking/deleting/banning without much comment. I try to help people here learn how to be constructive, contributing, members of this community. But to be honest, I also get tired of some of the idiocy. I'm a very reasonable man. Talk to me and there is a good chance we can work things out. But my patience does have it's limits.
That said, we are working on some things that might help make things better around here. But the number one thing that would improve these forums, in my mind, is for the people around here to all just
cut each other some slack - be polite, be kind, provide information if you can/want to. If you cannot do any of those things, then just be quiet.
The fact of the matter is, some of the other moderators (ok, all of them
) think I am TOO easy going and need to be a bit more vicious.... but I still believe - in general - most people are not trying to be difficult.
We are all here because we love this game - in order to get along and be a constructive community - we need to be patient and polite. Unfortunately not everyone gets that - and even those that do, sometimes have trouble with it. IMHO unless it becomes excessive, it's not really a problem.
If anyone is experiencing continued rudness/criticism etc from another forum member, they need to let me or one of the other mods know - and let us take care of it. Don't respond, let it die and let us deal with the perp. No vigilante justice
I hope this makes some sense, and you can also perhaps see some of the other perspectives around these issues.
Thanks
DE