I'm sure there is some reasonable compromise that can be reached. You can try and see if she'd be interested in joining you there, date nights in the weekdays and maybe one evening per weekend? If this issue has roots in her feeling neglected or not being seen it can be a good idea to try and make her feel acknowledged and validated in general. Get yourself some proper me-time since you need it, but also make sure she knows that you love her and find her wonderful in so many different ways and I'm sure you will both be really happy.Seff said:I think my own hobbies are getting neglected, but it's not a given that there is truly time to maintain them at the speed I want to, while still maintaining a relationship. So I'm not sure what I should do.
He is unique. I have never ever met someone like him before and I have never been treated this good before either.kurczak said:Bulle said:He is almost perfect, it's crazy. BUT, he is co-dependent with his narcissistic ex but I finally managed to make him take a great distance from her and not see her. And he has GAD, which is for me not a problem at all since it just makes him understand my problems with anxiety more (And I understand his). I do have pictures of us together, since I figure that giving his instagram wont actually prove that we are seeing each other.
But yeah, he is amazing. Better than in a romantic movie. Handsome, cute, sexy, smart, talented, nerdy, compassionate, caring, generous, funny etc.
Nah, I don't need to see any picture. The choice of word imaginary was just an edgy way of saying that he sounds very, I guess, unique.
Also, since you mention it "publicly", I'm gonna assume it's not extremely rude to ask what was the T that caused your PTSD?
Ask him out for a coffee.Calradianın Bilgesi said:need some advice
there is a guy i find interesting&fun in my college. we kissed in the first week when clubbing, and since then we're quite cordial to each other. i want to know what kind of person he is but the problem is i have few natural opportunities to speak with him so our chat was generally limited to ordinary things. how can i get to spend more time with him without seeming too intrusive or creepy
I asked him pretty clearly "What do you want for Christmas?" and he gave his response with the charity thing, and I said that it was pretty boring and that I'd like to give him something but he sticked to it. I don't want to nag. I know what kind of stuff he likes in general but he has like 15 pairs of everything he likes basically. I asked him what he wants for a birthday present and he said that he wants a nice tie. His apartment is pretty much packed with stuff, so whatever I give him shouldn't take much room.Antonis said:I find that needles into fingertips, just under the nails, work really well with people that refuse to talk.
But you should ask him anyway, though. Especially if you are interested in maintaining the relationship, you should ask. I mean, "I don't know what he likes, because he didn't tell me" doesn't sound pretty great. We guys like to be treated as princes and be asked what we want.
With my best regards,
Thinking about either making a little painting of me and/or us or taking him to the theatre or the opera.Weaver said:If a guy says he doesn't want you to buy him stuff but you still want to give him something, consider either making something cool with your own hands or creating a non-material present.
Hand-made presents which made me personally absolutely happy include twin bracelets, a hand-painted t-shirt, hand-knit scarf. I'm sure you can come up with something sentimental you can produce.
Otherwise take him places. Maybe he likes theatre or skating. Teach him yoga. Make him feel like he's special.
I have PTSD and dysthymia, I wonder who will reck it first.They're just starting out. People with GAD can be super sweet and emotional still it usually ends badly for everyone involved.
Just saying the truth. I think you just like to hate on couples. Although I guess I'm not particularly objective.Gestricius said:This one. Your love might inflate his pros, or maybe you just like to brag.Bulle said:Handsome, cute, sexy, smart, talented, nerdy, compassionate, caring, generous, funny etc.
Or maybe it's just me who likes to hate on couples, I threw rocks at people kissing in public yesterday. Was fun.
Make time for each other!pentagathus said:Tinder is not going well, I had one match that seemed great, we were going to meet up and then I accidentally unmatched her. I have another match who seems like a good egg but the only evening she is usually free is a Friday and I'm usually busy. Everybody else is boring.
Oh, also that girl I asked out a while ago is single again already, I'm pretty certain she isn't interested and I'm cool with that but I think she's avoiding me at the moment so she doesn't have to say it. Quite annoying because I like hanging out with her, I'm hoping to get to chat to her soon enough so I can let her know there's no need for awkwardness.
But he refuses to tell me what he wants!Antonis said:Then trust me and buy/make him something. Especially something inexpensive but wanted.
He is almost perfect, it's crazy. BUT, he is co-dependent with his narcissistic ex but I finally managed to make him take a great distance from her and not see her. And he has GAD, which is for me not a problem at all since it just makes him understand my problems with anxiety more (And I understand his). I do have pictures of us together, since I figure that giving his instagram wont actually prove that we are seeing each other.kurczak said:Ok, am I really the only one who thinks Bulle's boyfriend sounds as amazing as he sounds imaginary?
He is totally a materialist though, he is a hoarder and buys and/or trade things constantly.Antonis said:Bulle said:I could give money to charity and perhaps make him something more personal?
Probably that is the best solution. Although, I'm a really materialist dude, so I don't know, maybe he does mean it and he wouldn't like presents. I would like a little sth for Christmas, especially from my so.
I've been gone for too long it seems. I was at my boys place. His apartment is like a museum!Antonis said:Well, those pics certainly took my breast away. Such a titillating sight!
In all seriousness, you look great Bulle (and I do mean it benevolently). I'm also curious about the room. Also, yeah, TW doesn't allow NSFW(sorta) material any more. Teo had to paint his butt with a black pencil. Shameful!
But my pictures showed no nipples!Harkon Haakonson said:
Dude, resize.fysaga said:We´re doing NSFW pics now ?