The fact is, unless this kind of debate is processed through a different form than the binaristic model of freedom of speech vs. safety, any headway in these kind of issues is unlikely to be made. The democritizing potential of the Internet far outweighs the negative aspects that one might encounter, though I still sympathise with the OP to a degree. Forums can be an intimidating place, especially for certain members of the opposite sex who may be more likely offended by subject matter given that men tend to monopolize forums and also outnumber women (unless a forums is specifically aimed at women).
The specific 'netiquette' or degree of its employment within the Taleworlds forums is ultimately shaped by its members (the vasy majority unfortunately being male), which can lead to a marginalisation of groups, such as women, since such netiquette may not include their own concerns or, being masculine defined, can lead to derogatory marks towards women being overlooked. I agree with the poster in including 'gender' in the "No derogatory or discriminatory remarks based on ethnicity or religion. No hate propoganda, no racism" rule, but also with Janus in taking into account the context of
any allegedly derogatory or discriminatory remarks. Whether the person who posts allegedly offensive material is being serious or not, whether they are trying to offend certain members with it, etc. should be taken into account if a complaint is raised, just as the context of the complaint should be taken into account, i.e. if they made a complaint about an OT thread in Fun Stuff clearly titled 'Dead Baby Jokes'.
It also annoys me to see such attitudes, and also to a minor extent that people use words in a manner that is not correct. Sure, I am not native to English, but seriously, people. Let's take the abuse of the word rape, for instance, since that is quite common... I know it is rampart online these days, but there are countless of words that fit far better. The same goes for plenty of other words being use incorrectly, probably due to lack of vocabulary or just thinking they are cool. It is not so.
Unfortunately, you may have an army of linguists to fight against on that argument.
You cannot abuse a word. We define how language is used which dictionaries then record, not the other way round. Language change is driven by prestige and identity, in this instance, the use of the word 'rape' as in "omgzor he raped my battlecruisers!" is part of a vocabulary which gives identity to the gaming and Internet-using sub-group of society. The manifestation of the word in such a context is, like netiquette, a product of the group that produces it and unfortunately cannot be easily disassociated from its original meaning. A similar thing can be seen with the popular usage of '******' within certain social groups.