Kentai said:
So when you first start your own kindom, are you usually bringing in the more tumultuous lords because they'll join more easily to help you destroy other kingdoms or are your companion lords usually enough to take down your former kingdom and get those upstanding and good-natured lords you've built relation with?
Yeah, martial and cunning lords are usually my first lords. Or the ones with bad personalities if I don't care about grinding feasts. They + your mercenary company are enough if you establish your kingdom with a strong start. Which for me means 500+ party size full with elite units, at least 5 walled fiefs, upgraded KO knights and chapters (3-5 times), 2000 elite troops in reserve, combat-ready CKO (don't need to be finished ofc), 500k+ cash, 300+ honor, 10k+ renown, positive relations with all minor factions that I don't want to be my enemies
, 50+ relations with honorable lords (automatic relation gain with your honor rating over time), wife or husband at my disposal, 20+ relations with many villages that I intend to recruit from, household inventory full with consumable food, drinks and commodities for feasts, Order Stronghold unlocked, etc. (there's probably more that I forgot about). I usually get to this point around day 400 when I'm playing casually.
I only promote those companions into vassals, that I don't intend to use in my party. Let it be due to self-restrictions, roleplaying, uninterest, whatever. My point is that your companions are better used as immortal soldiers, skill supporters and troop trainers in your party. You can get more than enough vassals from the default lords.