I swear this game hates me.
I went ahead with pursuing someone else - who, as it turns out, I can't stand, but works politically. But I kept feeling upset that I missed out on Lady Sihavan, so I started another game in order to avoid the mistakes I made out of ignorance the first time around. I had to restart a couple of times to make sure Sihavan got the same personality type she had before, and everything seemed to go swimmingly.
But things with her have been difficult. In my original game, Sihavan was always hanging around Reyvadin, so I was able to devote my tournament victories to her and get a relationship going. But in this game, she never, ever leaves her brother's castle. At long last, I've finally got her jerk brother's consent to court her, but she seems to have zero interest in me. If I tell her I offer her my most ardent devotion, it results in negative relation points!
Since she's never around for tournaments, how in the world am I supposed to improve my relationship with her?