cav is too anime and not enough realistic
I agree, it's entirely unrealistic that a full speed bump will do 10 hp damage max when in reality it can incapacitate a person or even murder them on the spot. Or that a horse can be reared into a full stop by a slight thrust in the chest, or that you can get granted a superpower that allows you to kill any horse in 1-2 hits, even armoured ones.
You won't like how anime cavalry irl was, because for infantry to counter it you needed a significant numbers and/or terrain advantage, while in this game an infantry actually dominates 1v1 on a flat ground, and the only way for cavalry to get kills is to be a big and noisy backstabber, which is countered by awareness and teamwork.
Don't get me wrong, I am 100% for realism here, but let's go all the way, don't stop at the parts that only make cav weaker.