All of what you're complaining about has come because of RMs (leaderships) behaviour in the past, but you're still here defending it. Maybe change that, and peoples opinions towards you will also change.
I don't mean to defend that type of behaviour but permanent bans might still be a little harsh. I'd be in favour of stacking time (e.g. 24 hours (1st offense), 3 days (2nd offense within, lets say, a month of the previous), one week (3rd), one month, 6 months, a year...)
TaleWorlds needs to fix them, yes. But saying it's fair to use them to **** over other players (be it gaining an unfair advantage or straight up crashing the server) because they're ""in the game"" is moronic.