Oddly enough since the last hotfix and me starting a new game.
I've noticed that the 3 factions who's more or less about to be defeated(Battania, Khuzait and Nord Empire) they have had several clans defect already without me meddling.
2 of the 3 rebel factions that was on the map, have merged.
So if it was bug or something they fixed, I dunno but it makes for alot better game.
I still wish they would have for the rulerclan/kings that they would do like Warband and go into exile, but if one of their primary towns rebell -> they would be the "rebel faction" takeing control(and not a rng-created)
I'm guessing they are "getting there" but in a slower pace than I desire