Well it just sounds like you're saying feinting isn't fast and glitchy enough, but feinting is very fast and glitchy in Bannerlord to a degree in which it is honestly too strong. Like Warband is better at telegraphing feints. So I don't really get that complaint.
And complaining about people abusing mechanics to make their style is indeed rich coming from an inverse guru, since many salty types say the same about you. Fact remains people do have their unique styles, it's just that it's a separate issue whether those mechanics are properly balanced. I would say they're not currently, but I wouldn't say that means there's some fundamental flaw they can never fix. Again, by tweaking the movement, blocking, and combat animations in the right I think they'd be 90% of the way there and I fail to see this missing indescribable, magical component that apparently the rest of you (who have played for less than 5 hours) can see.