Hi guys!
First off, I'd like to precise I founded my kingdom at about day 90, so I didn't have an exceptional army (some adventurers, empire units, in fact your usual merc army with 30 different units). No knighthood units. However, my character has got very good combat stats (7 PS), already 250+ WPF on melee weapons & crossbows, ebony platemail and lordly gauntlets with pendor king's helm (which gives me about 60 head armor and 80 body) and balanced runed bastard sword. I got so good stats mainly by using 2 qualis gems for stats. Yes, I know, it's usually better to use them for knighthood orders, but I can't even found one yet since I don't have any fief atm (I gave them to companions since I needed more lords).
There's been a lot of fighting since my first post. I stopped 3 sarleon, 2 empire and 2 D'shar armies, each between 1k1 and 1k6 men. D'shar stopped attacking after getting their asses kicked twice, but sarleon & empire kept rotating their attacks (3 days after a sarleon siege, I had 10 empire lords near my castle, and Sarleon came back again about 3-4 days after I repelled the Empire's attack), so I could barely refill my troops in the few villages with positive relations and didn't have time to attack anything. I couldn't even defend Buvran (Almerra castle's village), since it was regularly attacked by some nasty sarleon or empire lords with crazy household troops (50 immortals or pendor grey archers) which you can't even counter in village battles (no horse), so the village was looted at least 5 times.
Eventually, sarleon attacked with 1k2 men while lord deodatus and I were outside the castle, and they didn't let us go in (Could've tried to fight their armies 1 by 1, but I didn't have enough men and deodatus would run as soon as he saw an enemy army, the coward). So, since I couldn't defend the castle, I asked my vassal to follow me and we attacked valorshield castle, which was luckily undefended since most Sarleon lords were occupied sieging my own castle. The garrison was rather weak (no knight, only a few top tier troops like armored longbowmen and halberdiers), so we managed to take the castle, although we had heavy losses, just before Sarleon took Almerra castle.
I then immediately gave the castle and the village to Frederick & donavan, in order to get 2 more lords. Only 1 or 2 days after I took the castle, the Empire sent a 600-700 men army to retake it. Sadly, Frederick & donavan hadn't spawned yet (It seems new lords don't spawn immediately, and can't at all when their castle is under siege), so I only had my depleted troops and the small garrison (About 200 men) to defend this BAD castle (2 ladders, lack of protection for archers, which makes it very easy to attack but hard to defend). During the siege, I finally managed to make peace with Sarleon though, looks like they were happy with Almerra castle, although they had lost Valorshield.
I then got extremely lucky and got saved by.... K'juda the Ravager! His 800 men army came close to my castle, which made all the empire lords flee through the bridge near my castle. K'juda followed them a bit, and they didn't have time to come back before the siege was lifted. Frederick, Donavan & boadice (She somehow managed to escape after having lost at Almerra castle) immediately spawned, the first 2 with a 100 men army each, including pendor knights, mettenheim great swords & forlorn hope, barclay sappers & conquistadors. I guess I'm going to leave the Jatu in peace this game
So, I recruited a little bit in the sarleon lands nearby, sold stuff in Laria, and let my lords refill their army and the castle's garrison. At the same time, Sarleon declared war against ravenstern. A few days after, Ravenstern sent a big part of it's army (about 1k5 men) to siege my castle, while fierdsvain lords were raiding my village. Once more, I thought it was my end, until Baron Cadeyrn from Sarleon sieged Evasolde castle, which made the ravenstern army retreat in order to defend it. Yeah, this time I got saved by Sarleon, 1 week after making peace with them and taking one of their castle...
So, now, I've got a few questions :
-Lord Deodatus was losing lots of relation points very regularly, since he lost his castle (and I promised him land). So, I decided to marry him, but he keeps losing as many relation points. Can your husband defect? Do bad relations with him change anything?
-Valorshield castle is very hard to defend. My men on the wall get headshotted by enemy archers, and the two ladders make things even more difficult. Has someone ever defended that castle, and knows a more defendable place inside the castle?
-In case I couldn't defend Valorshield castle, does somebody know a ravenstern / fierdsvain castle that can easily be defended? I can travel a lot if needed, though a castle that's close to my lands would be better.
Also, kingdoms don't seem to change relations as easily as some of you say, at least not with hard campaign difficulty. I've remained at war with everyone for about 50 days, and they stayed at peace with each other for that time. The only way I could make peace with sarleon was by losing my castle, and only then they decided to attack someone else.