If you want to have more fun try 1.41
Yeah they are crazy agressive now. I started two campaigns with 1.41 one with Asserai one with Khuzait and both times my faction went to war against 3 - 4 factions simultaneously, while I still run around as Clan tier 2 or 3.
Oh, sure, I know constant war is “the default” - it has been in my playthroughs too, but it’s clearly possible to have the opposite problem too. The policy/diplomacy AI will be much harder to make work than the combat ditto. Much like IRL
One of the dev's commented on it and the reason behind it in this thread, even has graphs that show the difference. You're experience is surprising given how many threads I've seen about all the constant war.