The option to discuss marrying Esur is missing when playing as a female and talking to Mesui if you've done the first date with other boys

[Humphrey Dingleford]

Summary: Despite succeeding both persuasion-check dates with Esur and being told to go talk to his mother, Mesui, there is no option to ask for her permission to marry her son when speaking with Mesui.

How to reproduce: First I offered my hand in marriage to Nayantai, Mesui's younger son. I succeeded the first persuasion-check date. Then I went to Esur, the older son, and succeeded the first persuasion-check date with him, too. In between those two first dates I also went to Khada of the Arkit clan and completed the first date with him just for the heck of it. After a few in-game days, I went back to Esur and succeeded the second date which is supposed to lead to marriage. Esur tells me to go talk to his mom. I travel to Mesui. There is no option to discuss marrying Esur. Also, after revisiting Nayantai or Khada, there is no option to attempt the second date with either of them.

Version: e1.3.0

Device specs:
OS: Windows 10 64-bit
GPU: i dunno
CPU: Intel(R) Core(TM) i9-8950HK CPU @ 2.90 GHz (12 CPUs), ~2.9GHz
RAM: 16 GB
Motherboard: how do i look this up
Storage Device (HDD/SSD): dxdiag doesn't say

 

[Quanta]

Did your character age up to 35 in between talking to the son, and talking to the mother? I know female characters lose the ability to marry after the age of 35, but I don't know how it works if you've already finished the first stages just before turning 35.

 

[Humphrey Dingleford]

Did your character age up to 35 in between talking to the son, and talking to the mother? I know female characters lose the ability to marry after the age of 35, but I don't know how it works if you've already finished the first stages just before turning 35.

My character just turned 35. That's it. Thank you. Guess I'll reload an earlier save

 

[Quanta]

You're welcome. At least it wasn't a game-breaking glitch or bug.