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Recruit

I don't know how many of these are par for the course or just a fluke of how these particular games ended up for me, but here goes. I'll summarize at the bottom for the tl;drs.
I started a new character and went about my business, levelling some Swadian knights and just generally having fun mowing people down. Eventually the Swadian king offered me vassalage, and the Swadians always seemed to kick sufficient ass to do well for themselves, so I accepted. A while later, they declared war on the Rhodoks. Alright, that's fine. Then they declared war on the Vaegirs. And then the Nords. The only people they HADN'T declared war on were the Khergits. At this point I was getting a little worried, but the other factions had kept mostly to themselves for a couple weeks and it didn't seem like it would be a problem.
Eventually, I was awarded a re-conquered fief, Reindi Castle and Emirin. Before I could even get my party there, it was sieged by the Rhodoks. Ookay, I only had about 65ish troops at the time and about half were Swadian knights, so I didn't like my odds defending walls since I was mostly built as a support/general rather than a warrior and couldn't do too much to help out my troops. It rather uneventfully passed into Rhodok hands again while I watched and got frustrated that the rest of the Swadian kingdom didn't care. Oh well.
I was passing by later on and noticed that Reindi only had about 30 garrisoned and most were Rhodok tribesman. Obviously, I stole it back and asked for it from the king, but had no luck. It was awarded to a Lord who was, for some reason, marked as my enemy on my relations page. Sort of a **** move, king. Not that it really mattered, because it was sieged less than a week later, this time by the nords, and fell because the lord it was given too was a useless jerk with 30 soldiers total.
So, later on, I stole it back AGAIN while it was low on troops and immediately went gathering as many recruits I could to stuff into it and train before it got attacked again. Well, of course, it did, and by a full army of 700 Rhodok soldiers just over a week later. Fun! Since I'd had no place to stage my troops and build up an actual army as opposed to a small warband, I had to sacrifice all my weakest troops and run away with my knights again, since your kingdom won't offer any assistance. Right next to Praven, even.
Obviously, by now this castle's had a lot of history and I'd been getting rather pissed off by my inability to progress in the game without it. Finally I managed to get a hold of it for longer than a day and filled it with 150 or so hastily trained Swadian Footman (the Training skill is a godsend), and was again sieged by the Rhodoks and their seemingly endless armies. No matter how many lords I'd smash and imprison, two more would take their place and after I released the lord or they escape, they'd have 100 troops again next time I'd see them. Lame.
Oh, yeah. Castle. So rather than leave, I huddle in my castle with all 250 or so of my troops, most of which only being swadian footmen, to see if I can hold them off. I didn't get the chance. Before the Rhodoks could commit to an attack, an even larger army of Vaegirs comes storming across the entirety of the Swadian empire straight to my little castle, and.. start fighting the Rhodoks for the right to siege my castle. They came ALL THE WAY across Swadian land, ignoring every castle along the way, to get mine that was nowhere near their territory. wat?
So the Vaegir and Rhodoks are pretty deadlocked fighting over who gets to siege me next, and the Nords come rolling up. Again, my territory isn't anywhere near theirs. The Nords however were at peace with the Vaegir and war with the Rhodoks, so together they send the Rhodoks back home, but not before the Vaegir were reduced enough to not think they had an overwhelming advantage, so they abandoned the siege as well, leaving me with about 600 angry nordic warriors sieging me, now. By a stroke of pure luck, the Khergits and THEIR war party happen to cruise by and send the Nords packing with my help.
tl;dr
So. Things that are making this game difficult to enjoy for me:
1; I join a faction. They, who were winning their single war quite handily, declare war (not had it declared on them) on two more factions and get attacked from all sides, and begin losing all three horribly. This happened in two consecutive games in two different factions.
2; They give me a castle and IMMEDIATELY it's the focal point of all conflict on the continent. EVERYONE wants it and I usually don't even have time to get to the castle before it's sieged, let alone garrison it properly and stage my troops to hold off entire 700 man war parties.
3; The AI takes it and it's ignored for weeks until I can ninja it back, and right away it's set upon by every faction at war with mine. (See number 1)
4; My faction won't send assistance when I'm hopelessly outnumbered with no means of building an army up without my lone, single staging area being mercilessly raped and pillaged before I can store enough troops there to defend it.
5; Speaking of levelling troops, knights are fast but I don't think they make the best foot soldiers and wall defenders. Swadian Sergeants are (i assume) better foot soldiers, but are slow.
Problem: I can't chase down people to level my foot soldiers because I go slowly with them in my party. I'd use less so they come to me instead, but a smaller force of Swadian Footmen (or below) don't exactly have the greatest survival rate.
6; Enemy lords seem to have an unending supply of troops and no matter how many times I decimate them in combat, they next time I see them they've got a full compliment of soldiers again. Frustrating but tolerable if I could keep a stable castle to build big, high level armies.
Granted I'm pretty new and don't know the ins and outs of how to efficiently level foot soldiers or garrison castles, so I'm sure a few pointers could alleviate a lot of this frustration.
By the way, interestingly, the village to this castle never once got looted.
I started a new character and went about my business, levelling some Swadian knights and just generally having fun mowing people down. Eventually the Swadian king offered me vassalage, and the Swadians always seemed to kick sufficient ass to do well for themselves, so I accepted. A while later, they declared war on the Rhodoks. Alright, that's fine. Then they declared war on the Vaegirs. And then the Nords. The only people they HADN'T declared war on were the Khergits. At this point I was getting a little worried, but the other factions had kept mostly to themselves for a couple weeks and it didn't seem like it would be a problem.
Eventually, I was awarded a re-conquered fief, Reindi Castle and Emirin. Before I could even get my party there, it was sieged by the Rhodoks. Ookay, I only had about 65ish troops at the time and about half were Swadian knights, so I didn't like my odds defending walls since I was mostly built as a support/general rather than a warrior and couldn't do too much to help out my troops. It rather uneventfully passed into Rhodok hands again while I watched and got frustrated that the rest of the Swadian kingdom didn't care. Oh well.
I was passing by later on and noticed that Reindi only had about 30 garrisoned and most were Rhodok tribesman. Obviously, I stole it back and asked for it from the king, but had no luck. It was awarded to a Lord who was, for some reason, marked as my enemy on my relations page. Sort of a **** move, king. Not that it really mattered, because it was sieged less than a week later, this time by the nords, and fell because the lord it was given too was a useless jerk with 30 soldiers total.
So, later on, I stole it back AGAIN while it was low on troops and immediately went gathering as many recruits I could to stuff into it and train before it got attacked again. Well, of course, it did, and by a full army of 700 Rhodok soldiers just over a week later. Fun! Since I'd had no place to stage my troops and build up an actual army as opposed to a small warband, I had to sacrifice all my weakest troops and run away with my knights again, since your kingdom won't offer any assistance. Right next to Praven, even.
Obviously, by now this castle's had a lot of history and I'd been getting rather pissed off by my inability to progress in the game without it. Finally I managed to get a hold of it for longer than a day and filled it with 150 or so hastily trained Swadian Footman (the Training skill is a godsend), and was again sieged by the Rhodoks and their seemingly endless armies. No matter how many lords I'd smash and imprison, two more would take their place and after I released the lord or they escape, they'd have 100 troops again next time I'd see them. Lame.
Oh, yeah. Castle. So rather than leave, I huddle in my castle with all 250 or so of my troops, most of which only being swadian footmen, to see if I can hold them off. I didn't get the chance. Before the Rhodoks could commit to an attack, an even larger army of Vaegirs comes storming across the entirety of the Swadian empire straight to my little castle, and.. start fighting the Rhodoks for the right to siege my castle. They came ALL THE WAY across Swadian land, ignoring every castle along the way, to get mine that was nowhere near their territory. wat?
So the Vaegir and Rhodoks are pretty deadlocked fighting over who gets to siege me next, and the Nords come rolling up. Again, my territory isn't anywhere near theirs. The Nords however were at peace with the Vaegir and war with the Rhodoks, so together they send the Rhodoks back home, but not before the Vaegir were reduced enough to not think they had an overwhelming advantage, so they abandoned the siege as well, leaving me with about 600 angry nordic warriors sieging me, now. By a stroke of pure luck, the Khergits and THEIR war party happen to cruise by and send the Nords packing with my help.
tl;dr
So. Things that are making this game difficult to enjoy for me:
1; I join a faction. They, who were winning their single war quite handily, declare war (not had it declared on them) on two more factions and get attacked from all sides, and begin losing all three horribly. This happened in two consecutive games in two different factions.
2; They give me a castle and IMMEDIATELY it's the focal point of all conflict on the continent. EVERYONE wants it and I usually don't even have time to get to the castle before it's sieged, let alone garrison it properly and stage my troops to hold off entire 700 man war parties.
3; The AI takes it and it's ignored for weeks until I can ninja it back, and right away it's set upon by every faction at war with mine. (See number 1)
4; My faction won't send assistance when I'm hopelessly outnumbered with no means of building an army up without my lone, single staging area being mercilessly raped and pillaged before I can store enough troops there to defend it.
5; Speaking of levelling troops, knights are fast but I don't think they make the best foot soldiers and wall defenders. Swadian Sergeants are (i assume) better foot soldiers, but are slow.
Problem: I can't chase down people to level my foot soldiers because I go slowly with them in my party. I'd use less so they come to me instead, but a smaller force of Swadian Footmen (or below) don't exactly have the greatest survival rate.
6; Enemy lords seem to have an unending supply of troops and no matter how many times I decimate them in combat, they next time I see them they've got a full compliment of soldiers again. Frustrating but tolerable if I could keep a stable castle to build big, high level armies.
Granted I'm pretty new and don't know the ins and outs of how to efficiently level foot soldiers or garrison castles, so I'm sure a few pointers could alleviate a lot of this frustration.
By the way, interestingly, the village to this castle never once got looted.