Whilst I appreciate your sentiment in the post after this one.
Really sounds like you are just virtue signalling and going around calling other people toxic for expressing what they dislike about the current state of the game. When you yourself are doing the same thing and even "quitting" the forum for "at least 3 months".
Which lasted nothing but 3 days...
Then typing a huge essay on how people should be behaving or striving to behave when you don't do so yourself just makes it really hard to take anything you say seriously tbh.
You are right people have things going on in their lives (everybody has their own stuff going on).
But when people expect better or wish for something better from something they care about and are not seeing any progress.
Or when in this case the company has fed peoples expectations throughout all the blog posts and E3 footage and are not delivering, It's a perfectly justifiable situation for people to express that they want to see improvements.
If Taleworlds had not provided the information in the first place people would not be expecting them to deliver on those things.
And when the players have been trying their utmost for over a year to push feedback and hopefully see changes and most of them are largely ignored again, It's a natural human reaction to be quite annoyed or frustrated.
Many games are held accountable when they are not delivering what makes Bannerlord any different to those? Why can't this game be pushed to do better? We all want Bannerlord to be great. And we all agree it currently is not living up It's name.
Anyway people should strive to communicate better. So I agree with what you said. But you really need to practice what you preach my guy.
And before someone says that this a toxic post in itself, I am perfectly calm and being absolutely serious. Don't preach things you are not demonstrating yourself. Nothing worse than a hypocrite.?
From what I can see you are only here to play devils advocate for the sake of it.
Like I said in the comment, sometimes I struggle as well, I am only human and I'm on the path of becoming what I preach, even if I am not there yet. It doesn't make me a hypocrite, but a currently developing, flawed human being. About that post about taking a 3-month break, I will explain why I wrote it. First of all I wrote it for myself, I wanted to motivate myself and keep me accountable on doing the things I wrote I will be doing. I've been having trouble with motivation a lot, since I felt pressured from multiple things I have to do and the easiest thing to do is dive deep into a video-game and stay there and ignore reality. It's an addiction, when people think of addiction they think of 'drugs', but everyone has their own escape which is not always a pill. I wanted to simply improve my life because I was feeling unhappy and had many responsibilities which I wasn't taking care of, and the pressure was getting to me. As you saw thereafter, I still wrote on the forum, so it didn't work. I saw a post and I felt like giving a suggestion, because I care about bannerlord's development as well. Then it went downhill. It was worth a try though. There was no ill-intent behind that post.
The second reason I wrote it was just to try and give people a perspective in which - if the game doesn't satisfy their expectations to the point that it's making them very angry and frustrated, they should take a break - for their own wellbeing. I thought that no matter if it works for me or not for my own purpose, maybe there will be at least one other person that is inspired and maybe it would work for them. I do agree that you should always be what you preach, I know that very well. And believe me, I wish I was. But this is the current me and it's going to take some time.
And the third and more subtle reason was of course to try and lessen the negativity on the forum, which ties into people's own wellbeing and also the developers and mods. I just don't find negativity, when it is expressed inadequately, good for literally anyone - giver or receiver. Yes, it can be fun, funny, cathartic, and that's healthy in itself. But while some are joking (more or less), it still creates a cycle where people see that hate, see that it's fun, funny, cathartic, it feels good, and then they reproduce it. Why would anyone want a forum filled with negativity? Constructive criticism still works. I do agree that negativity attracts attention. I just don't think it's the best way to go about it.
Other games are being pushed to betterment as well. Valheim for example had comments of "give more content now!" as well, after the first week of release. But there were also people that said "take it easy bro, it's been released for a few weeks, have patience, let them enjoy this". When there was a negative comment, there would be like 3-4 guys jumping on him and saying something positive about the game (and there still hasn't been a major update for the game yet, but I do think it's coming soon). So the game was received way better, so it makes sense - really no bugs on release and good performance (for most), it's an amazing game. But on this forum it feels like it's the opposite... if someone writes a positive comment people jump on him and say something negative instead, which is a really funny parallel. I get it, people are unsatisfied with the game. I hope for improvements as well, which is why I try to give feedback. But just saying "your game sucks", "let's boycott the game" is not helping anyone at all. Those are aggressive, unnecessary comments... It's been on my mind for a while, it's just weird... if the game is still in EA, and it still gets updates monthly or so, then why so much hate...
People play the game, they get frustrated, then they come on the forum to spread hate (not suggestions) - this is what is going on. Which is why I think a break is very healthy in that case. It makes no sense to criticize the game after a new patch, then keep criticizing it until next patch like that is the final version of the game... at least give it some time, come back after a few patches and see if it's still worth criticizing. Seeing how mods have handled out some bans now, you can tell they've been very patient (with all the warnings etc), and they finally broke. It's just not humanly possible to handle hate every day. Every day there's a couple of posts that just express hate, and they're from recurring people. Imagine a work environment for yourself where some people are just allowed to come in and criticize you every day. Nobody likes being criticized. Online environment or not, it still hits you, everyone is only human. If devs were physically in a room, would people just go and start shouting at them and saying how bad of a job they're doing?... online it doesn't look so bad though. But yeah I guess I just wanted to mitigate that a little, I don't have any ill-interest. Just wanted to feel like I'm doing something positive, even if so insignificant as this, since I'm feeling pretty useless most of the time and I thought it was a good idea, that's all. You can call it my catharsis, and we can leave it at that.