Love to You, and Why?

[JS]

So just something I think about a lot, and is a very interesting topic for me personally. I thought perhaps others might find it interesting also, so heck, why not share it and poll it?

People are sooo different from one another: shape, size, sexual preference, political views, moral beliefs, .etc. A big variation I notice particularly, is what people are looking for in a relationship. Now of course this answer will vary with the initial question; for instance, the question in the poll. Some of you may immediately think about how long you want the relationship to last, rather the what the point of the relationship is (e.g. If I ask you how you sleep at night, some of you may respond "Good," others, maybe "On my back," and other still may say "Naked, or without a shirt) Thus the answer to the question may vary based on how the person takes it, so there are multiple answers, leaving basically anything open for an answer.

But the question of which I am truly interested in, is what do you hope to gain from a relationship? I'm honestly shocked at how many different people want different things. I personally don't understand the "one month relationship" or the "F-ing buddy", I'm more into "mate fore life". But that's what makes this so interesting; the fact that most of us have a totally different outlook on love, and why we love.

So anyway, I find this conversation very interesting, and I was hoping you guys would, too.

~Twinkle, who personally prefers the very deep, old-fashioned form of romance -- to each his own, though

 

[havoc]

I like womens.

 

[Krik]

Could probably fit in the dating grauu but whatever. I just want to find someone I can love till I die who is gonna love me back. I absolutely hate dating but love being in a relationship.

 

[Vraelomon]

I cry myself to sleep. Wait, was that not the question?

 

[havoc]

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly three years now and living together for over a year. Soon we are to be engaged, and couldn't be happier. I'm in the relationship I always wanted.

I'm with Krik on the entire dating sucks thing. I'm glad that's behind me.

 

[gaham1]

I cry myself to sleep. Wait, was that not the question?

+3 trillion

 

[Swadius 2.0]

I build my womans from glass and metal.

 

[kurczak]

First of all - big yay to the topic!

Personally I go crazy Hollywood about my relationships. All of them are "fatal" and I very much tend to give them a larger context and narrative (often in retrospective) and imagine what my life what would be like if it were a tv show like The Sopranos or Breaking Bad and everything had a bunch of levels and causes and consequences.

Not saying that I necessarily live a life as interesting, dangerous and fast paced as a tv show, just saying I sometimes like to imagine I do. It's just something that gets me from Monday to Friday

 

[Comrade Crimson]

Depends- it might vary. Right now, with my current girlfriend I am not searching for anything- it might end up for a mate for life, but I typically don't "look" for love at all. We ended up together more or less through accident if that makes any sense, we were friends beforehand but it just sort of... happened. With lots of booze one night and binge gaming on fallout and metal gear solid, a bit of tipsy cuddling and so forth and you end up revealing to each other you had a crush on each other, so go figure.

Love to me, can come in many different types, shapes and forms.

 

[havoc]

Love to me, can come in many different types, shapes and forms.

 

[Úlfheðinn]

I've always found Robert Sternberg's theory of love pretty amusing. 

It's a longer theory to explain though, so perhaps after Turkey break I will post something more in detail, otherwise the wiki article offers a decent summary of his "Triangular Theory of Love."

 

[kurczak]

That **** is fabulous.

 

[Pharaoh Llandy]

But the question of which I am truly interested in, is what do you hope to gain from a relationship?

Depends on the relationship and my mental/emotional state at the time.

 

[Orchid]

A wealth of things, of course. A companion to experience exciting new ventures with (but also the bad ones), someone to talk to about both your fears and doubts, to have intensely intimate physical contact with and, perhaps most of all, to know you're able to rely on your better half. And I believe that's perfectly possibly whilst knowing it might not be for eternity.

 

[Tibertus]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhrBDcQq2DM

 

[Orchid]

VLADISLAV

 

[Paronomasia12]

I didn't decide and don't expect "Oh, I want and need these, and this person satisfies those", it just sort of happened naturally and we managed to muddle through. May be more to it than that, but I haven't thought about it deeply enough.

 

[pentagathus]

Have never been in a serious relationship. They don't really sound like that much fun. I think the only way I could deal with a relationship is if it was like a close friendship. With a ladyfriend. With whom I would have sex with. Verily so.

 

[Krik]

That's what it is, or at least what it was for me.

 

[Pixel]

Loving somebody is what makes life worthwhile and meaningful. I may be one of the few people that's actually experienced it at such an early point in my life, and while things did not work out it was still the best thing that ever happened to me and the best thing I ever did to make a difference in the world.

So yeah. I could pretty easily get sex now if I wanted to, but it wouldn't be any fun by itself. I've never really done it for the pleasure but just because of the person.