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Juno

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...right...im gonna leave the topic of my gf alone after this but theres sumthing really bugging me....

someone who complains that a relationship isnt going well when they dont put anything into it can go **** themselves

am i right to say this about a girl in a relationship or is it completely up to me to take control of a relationship as a guy? Im not sure weather iv worded this very well but.... should i keep with that in my mind or should i expect to grab the relationship by the neck next time?
 
Juno said:
...right...im gonna leave the topic of my gf alone after this but theres sumthing really bugging me....

someone who complains that a relationship isnt going well when they dont put anything into it can go **** themselves

am i right to say this about a girl in a relationship or is it completely up to me to take control of a relationship as a guy? Im not sure weather iv worded this very well but.... should i keep with that in my mind or should i expect to grab the relationship by the neck next time?


Oh God, this one is hard to answer...

Oh well, when in my relationship isn't going well, I think I must think if I really love her, and talk with her, because the comunication is very important in the relationship. In the Bible said that the man is the head of the marriage, and the woman is the body, that means that the man will have the last word, but that doesnt mean that woman doesn't count, a man that never listen the advise of his wife, well, I think is not much inteligent.

I must talk about any problem with her, and if she is not enough mature to understand, well, I must tell her, and think if we are doing the thigs well.

My advise: If you have problem with her, talk with her, the relationship is about two (three with God), so don't do things alone, and don't let the little problems accumulate until they destroy your love.

Well, I am not a non plus ultra in this, but I think my advise is good.

PS: Sorry for my bad English.

God bless you.
Praying for you.
 
thanks for the advice dude :grin: been a hard time to be completly honest.... i gotta stay focussed in school cause iv got BIG exams this year and this was the last thing i needed :sad:

the thing about me is , the only thing i fear in a relationship is become meglomanic :sad: or making her feel trapped :sad: so... i just want some more advice on how i go about wearing the trousers ina relationship but not over doing it if you know what i mean?
 
someone who complains that a relationship isnt going well when they dont put anything into it can go **** themselves

Well, IMHO "dont put anything into" part means that a guy sits behind his TV all the time he's not sleeping or eating. In fact, I've seen freaks who watch TV, sleep and eat at the same time 24/7 :shock:
Those guys can realy go and **** themselves.

When a person notices that his/her relatinship, action should be taken. If the person is very-very busy to take action and diverto more time to their relationships... well... good luck to them.

If a person notices the problems with relationships too late and that's why no action was taken, they should learn from their mistakes and be able to react promptly next time. "go and **** themselves" is too rude cynical in that case. All of us make mistakes. That's why we can proudly call ourselves humans :wink:
 
Well I'll give you my example, me and my girl are going threw hard times now and I have to put in almost ALL the effort to make things work. Basically, I come up with a solution to a problem and she promptly ****s it all to **** and then says shes sorry. Now I love her, so I tolerate it, I just don't know for how much longer. To tell you the truth tho, and to perhaps answer your question it is usually up to the man to take control and make something work, thats our nature, women blow things out of proportion and make drama. We as men have that obligation to see past all the bull **** and basically FIX IT.
 
Well said Pav.

At the risk of sounding incredibly misogynistic, if you let the girl call the shots in the relationship you're asking to get screwed over.

Same reason you don't let them drive*


* now that's some good ole fashioned misogyny! Thanks folks, I'll be here all week. Be sure to tip your waiters.
 
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