By recruiting other lords,talk to them in private.You should have good relationship with each of them if you want to persuade a lord to defect.Another way is making some of your companions into vassal but make sure they are high-leveled and well equipped,because you won't be able to change this things after!
To make your companions vassals you need to talk to them via your Party Window and ask if they want a fief.
Once they are enfeoffed, you give them more fiefs through your minister (who must be your wife or a companion, not the "local noble" who is just a placeholder). This is also how you give other NPC lords fiefs once they have defected to you.
In the future, please utilize the stickied Q&A thread for other similar "insanely stupid" short, no discussion needed, questions.
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