well...i agree that the settings of L&R are difficult than "native", but it's acceptable.
i started my game at lv1 without import char. and now i got 1 town and 3 castles for my own kingdom.
Here are my steps
1) Gain lv at training ground and arena
2) Work for the guild master and lords to gain money+exp, and hire companions during
the journey.
3) Recruit some soldiers from villages, then kill outlaw/sea riders near the coast of Nord empire.
(I used to ask all the freshman stay behind and charge the enemy by myself.
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I did not called my companions and mercenary cavalry join the attack until i elimate 1/2 - 1/3 enemy on the battlefied...well,i only hire a few mercenary cavalry, and spend most of my money to upgrade the equipments so i don't want to lose any of them)
4) Join Nord empire and chasing for TOURNAMENTS and enemy Lords from town to town.
5) I find a town that was less defensive after besieged by another empire, so i conquer it and ask my king to give it to me.( Remember to save the game before your king make a decision if you do not want to rebell yet. However, if you already got 1 town/castle on your hand, your king will never give anymore fief to you)
6) I leave most of my well-trained man to protect the town, then recruit much more soldiers and train them.
7) I rebell after i have over 200 man.
P.S.: my 1st post as well XD and i am not a native speaker, so pls fogive me if i make any grammatical mistake