I too tend to play for an hour and then start wondering, "What the hell am I supposed to be doing here?" The mod looks potentially fabulous, but some direction in the FAQ might be useful.
My experience was, I started my settlement (not an Emptio), and recruited some peasants. Met a few heroes and helped out in some fights. Went to some villages that were infested by Bandits, and got rid of them. Every so often I would kill a Thief in my own village.
I advanced the time via the cheat for a while, came back to my settlement and it had gained a few peasants. Sold a couple of slaves. Couldn't find anyone else on the map so leaned on the time advancement thing again, spawned a bunch of bandits and lost my village.
I read a post where someone said that they typically spend the early game visiting other settlements to build rep with them. But that was all I could glean from how you should start out, and I tried it and it seems mind-meltingly boring. I can't find fights, and I can't figure out what I should be doing.
So, what are my objectives? Should I be fighting the bandit settlements? What should I be doing when I'm in my settlement with 14 peasants? Waiting? Will the Swadians and other factions etc appear eventually? Is the mod entirely about building a settlement with no conflict involved?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking the mod, just a little guidance would be appreciated.