Thank you for the tips! I'll take a try with the troop editor.
I was NOT kicked by one of those puny hordes!!!

...
it was a patrol...

they got us after we had a party, you know, we were bringing this wine supply to a tavern in Ichamur and, you know, got a bit of taste of it, just to try.
Next thing I know am dragged about after some Khergit horse and its stinking rider
Seriously: they distract lords too much from what they are doing (as if Lords AI needed that

). They are too many and lords hardly ever finish a siege.
And yes, also the hordes respawning less than 24 hours after they are destroyed is quite annoying.
Plus villagers have no chance to make it through patrolled areas.
regards
edit: I tried Hank's method:
The numbers in red are the ones you want to change. The first ones are the minimum in the party, and the second one is the number that is the maximum for the spawned party.
http://forums.taleworlds.com/index.php/topic,46290.msg1254290.html#msg1254290
changing to 0 both min and max doesn't work. Will try the editor.