ahhh thats fair, yeah at the time I was all alone, with 2-3 castles claimed. It was just getting to the point where I couldnt keep trying to take castles/cities because when I would take one, the other would get seiged, if I went there to stop it, then the one I just took would then get seiged, and back and forth lol I finally got my first lord for 750k gold which seems a little steep. At one point I cheated myself 80 mil gold and was still getting denied by most lords. Idk, I like how its not as easy as warband to get lords to join, but seem like they might want to tweek it just a little bit. Feel like there is no reason a lord I have 90+ relation with, 80 mil gold, decent influence/renown, who also has no fiefs, should just flat out be saying no, ya feel me?