Girlfriend troubles, hoping for advice.

[King85]

Okay so the bottom line is I never see my girlfriend because she's always busy with some kind of random nonsense and whenever I make plans with her she always cancels on me for one reason or another. We've been dating for almost 5 months and I still only see her for about 20 minutes a day in school at lunch and MAYBE if im lucky for an hour or two one day after school or on a weekend. I know she still has feelings for me but Im questioning my own at the moment. I feel like I could just give less of a **** by now. Like, i dont even bother asking if she's free anymore because the answer almost 100% of the time is no. An example of my desensitization to her busy life and what not is today, i was in the middle of asking her if i could see her after school but i cut myself off in mid-sentence and answered for her and said "nevermind, no I can't", which she reluctantly confirmed that I had assumed correctly. I have confronted her about this problem and how I feel numerous times and she always says she's sorry and that she'll fix it and she'll make it work but after nearly 5 months and multiple confrontations about this topic, I know thats more than likely never happening. I know its not her fault but it frustrates and annoys me that she does almost nothing to try and fix the situation. So i ask anyone out there who's willing to lend me a hand, should I just cut the bullcrap and end the relationship or wait it out and see if she can actually improve it? or any other adivce you may have would be much appreciated. Thank you.

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[Austupaio]

Tell her to **** off and commit or just **** off.

 

[Familyguy1]

5 months of this? constantly, like everytime you try to do something with her?

Yeah, cut it off I would say. But you could wait it out a few more weeks and see if things change....but its your choice. Ultimately confront her more aggresive about it and if she does not change, cut it off completely.

If she cant make time for your busy schedule, then what is the point of her even having a boyfriend....

 

[Tibertus]

SIIHP

 

[Elisianthus]

Was waiting for that.

 

[Evilknightz]

Myself, being the same age, can say that school relationships are kind of a *****.

 

[Tibertus]

Was waiting for that.

I know, right?

 

[Magorian Aximand]

I guess it largely depends on whether or not you care enough about her to wait for this busy period to end, whenever that may be.

Should you want to try for a little while longer, perhaps instead of asking her if she's free at a given time, ask her when she'll be free. Force her to look ahead and find a plot of time where you can do something together. Once this time has been found, tell her just how important it is to you that you spend this time with her. If you make this event a very important one, there should not be a reason for her to cancel.

That's the best I've got.

 

[Finzi]

School relationships inevitably fail, don't worry about it. If she honestly doesn't see you for more than an hour or so a week, despite the fact that you go to school together, maybe she's not really in a position to have a boyfriend in the first place.

 

[Verbeek]

Make quality time of the precious moments you and your beloved spend together.

隐藏

= Just **** her brains out any chance you get. 20 mins will do. 

 

[Seltus]

I was about to write a long text filled with quality advice and good solutions, then I saw Verbeek's post.

Do that instead.

 

[El Perro Finlandese]

What the hell is happening to this place?!

 

[Seff]

In what sense to you mean, Don Doggy?

 

[killer-blead]

I would tell her to put some effort in your relationship or break up.


Edit: Fixed.

 

[Temuzu]

Its break up, silly goose

 

[killer-blead]

D'oh!

Dear god, I keep making stupid mistakes. 

 

[Temujin]

Okay so the bottom line is I never see my girlfriend because she's always busy with some kind of random nonsense and whenever I make plans with her she always cancels on me for one reason or another. We've been dating for almost 5 months and I still only see her for about 20 minutes a day in school at lunch and MAYBE if im lucky for an hour or two one day after school or on a weekend. I know she still has feelings for me but Im questioning my own at the moment. I feel like I could just give less of a **** by now. Like, i dont even bother asking if she's free anymore because the answer almost 100% of the time is no. An example of my desensitization to her busy life and what not is today, i was in the middle of asking her if i could see her after school but i cut myself off in mid-sentence and answered for her and said "nevermind, no I can't", which she reluctantly confirmed that I had assumed correctly. I have confronted her about this problem and how I feel numerous times and she always says she's sorry and that she'll fix it and she'll make it work but after nearly 5 months and multiple confrontations about this topic, I know thats more than likely never happening. I know its not her fault but it frustrates and annoys me that she does almost nothing to try and fix the situation. So i ask anyone out there who's willing to lend me a hand, should I just cut the bullcrap and end the relationship or wait it out and see if she can actually improve it? or any other adivce you may have would be much appreciated. Thank you.

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You should count yourself lucky!

You still get to have sex with her right? And you don't get the whining, or the peeling potatoes, doing the disches, being asked to come over to the couch right after you start up your pc, or a game you wish to play, because she thinks you should spend your atention on her and not your pc, no you can just walk around naked if you want, have coffee or even beer, eat all the unhealthy crap you want, no pressure to clean the house before noon, you can spend as much as you want on a graphics card whenever you want without getting flack because she wants a new couch even tough the one you have is perfectly fine etc...

I think every man in a long term relationship would tell you that you have no idea how lucky you are.

I haven't met a man in a single relationship yet who doesn't refer to their girlfriend/wife/ fiancé as: "The boss" Instead I often see guys in stores contemplating to buy something grabbing their cell phones and uttering: "gotta ask the boss first".

The happiest man I knew before he died, was my friend Juul he had a girlfriend, but he only visited her 1 day every 2 weeks, during that day they'd do all kind of stuff she wanted to do, and all other days he was free as a bird.

隐藏

I'm exagerating a bit tough in an effort to be funny, because despite being "underneath the shoe" as they say in this country I am happy with my gf who is also my personal coock, cleaning lady, and clothes washer. My only task is keeping the place relatively tidy and doing the disches, and I imediately bought a dishwashing machine when it was decided the disches where my taks in the household. And Jorinde is getting older she can eat by herself now (alltough we still have to make it) washing her, changing diapers etc we both do

 

[Swadius 2.0]

I imediately bought a dishwashing machine when it was decided the disches where my taks in the household.

For some reason, my initial reaction to reading this part is if my gf was responsible for washing dishes and then bought a washing machine instead, I'd be pretty pissed.

 

[Stefan Coeur de Lion]

For most women their best friend is more important than even their husband. So don't expect to be your gf's main priority. That said, she may just not consider spending time together to be valueable. Maybe she is more after either Gifts/Touch or Praise.

Oh crap.  Actions speak louder than words.  If she wants to spend time with you, she'll prioritise it.  If you want to spend quality time with her, and she won't, then it's not much of relationship, is it?  I'd say it's either over, or close to it.  Never mind, just don't go all Romeo and Juliet on us.  Take it from me, you'll find a relationship that works.

My wife is my best friend. I spend almost every waking hour that I'm not at work with her.  Every now and then I'll do something without her (she may not want to come on a car club run all the time, and she doesn't like parties like I do), but mostly, we're doing stuff together.  All the time.  But we prioritise that.  If I make plans to cook dinner and have romantic night in, then that's my plan -  someone asks me out, I'll probably say no, make an alternative date with them, and keep my romantic night with my love.  Because she's my priority, and I'm hers. 

But ****, what would I know, we've only been together 19 years, now.

 

[killer-blead]

Oh crap.  Actions speak louder than words.  If she wants to spend time with you, she'll prioritise it.  If you want to spend quality time with her, and she won't, then it's not much of relationship, is it?  I'd say it's either over, or close to it.  Never mind, just don't go all Romeo and Juliet on us.  Take it from me, you'll find a relationship that works.

My wife is my best friend. I spend almost every waking hour that I'm not at work with her.  Every now and then I'll do something without her (she may not want to come on a car club run all the time, and she doesn't like parties like I do), but mostly, we're doing stuff together.  All the time.  But we prioritise that.  If I make plans to cook dinner and have romantic night in, then that's my plan -  someone asks me out, I'll probably say no, make an alternative date with them, and keep my romantic night with my love.  Because she's my priority, and I'm hers. 

But ****, what would I know, we've only been together 19 years, now.

I envy you.

It's hard to find a decent girl these days.