I already said they can work if they want to. Any job. Women here go to college and have high profile office jobs just like in other countries. What I was saying was, having all these opportunities doesn't mean they don't want to get married, be housewives and have a family. I know in the west it's different because the economy is so competitive that having a family is such a burden, and you need both men and women to have a job. But it's different here. Getting married and making a family is still the standard route, and it's not that hard to achieve. Indonesians think that you need children to accompany you in your old days. A retirement home is not popular because a lot of people can't afford that. If they don't have children, their only options will be to die alone or be a burden to their siblings, which sucks. Hell, just look at Japan.You are basically saying "women here are backward and fine with it, they don't mind not fulfilling their potential".
What a lot of women find is, once they have children, they tend to prefer to quit their jobs to take care of the kids. Because it's very difficult to manage both at the same time, and people generally don't enjoy working (I know I don't). Of course, there's a lot of women who still go to work and have their parents take care of their children. This is how it usually goes. Women do the standard education route up to graduating with a bachelor degree in their early twenties. They will then work for a few years. Once they're around 25 they will start thinking about marriage and where to go next with their career or education. Choosing both is as common as stopping study/work. Not getting married is the rare option.
I don't know why you assume it's because of some kind of oppression. Fact of the matter is, a lot of people simply don't want to get higher education or work hard. Doesn't matter if you're a woman or a man. In fact, women have a way out by being a house wife, while men don't have a choice. When I ask my friends if they want to continue their education, most of them answer with "Nah I don't wanna." What can I say to that? Insult them for not fulfilling their potential?