Defending the Kingdom

[Xelvod]

I play for Rhodoks Kingdom, problem is my kingdom has declared war with everyone except Swadians, neither one of my lords can't defend the castle, and every time i need to conquer the castle back. I conquer two cities and three castle, but when i move from the teretory comp already taken the teretory back.  !?!!
I am very angry because all I have to do everything defend, attack and etc. How to declare peace or war and whay my kingdom doing stupid decisions?!??!

 

[Adorno]

Don't be a Rhodok - just kidding 

Seriously:
There are two ways to declare peace and war:
1. Peace: Talk to the guild master in a town. He will sometimes give you a mission to talk to 2 lords (at war with each other)
and convince them to declare peace.
2. War: Talk to an ally lord and you will sometimes be given a mission to raid 2 caravans from an ally faction. That will provoke war.

 

[Æon]

Doing the quest that declares war will also make you loose relationship points with other lords depending on their standpoint with the lord you did the quest for.