Dating Thread, v. I

[Mage246]

While "not considering her feelings" and neglecting to give her attention may be valid reasons to break up, I'd certainly not consider them valid reasons to cheat on someone. You honestly don't make him come off as a bad guy, so I do feel bad for him that he's possibly being strung along until she finds someone else to take care of her.

 

[Elisianthus]

Is there any physical component to this?

Eh, spent most of the weekend I visited snuggled together on a couch, so IDFK. Though apparently I also make a good footwarmer. She's self confessed shy and not had a relationship before though (And a practicing Catholic) so things are pretty slow physically. No rush though, 's about comfort.

What's his name?

Sir Bartholomew Fortesque XXVIII

 

[Arvenski]

(And a practicing Catholic)

...Oh.

 

[MadocComadrin]

And that's funny how?

 

[Anarion]

Endless service? Strangely conservative views? I know you're Catholic Madoc, but I honestly Catholicism find it a little bit exotic and inexplicable. 

 

[Cyborg Eastern European]

I wonder if she'll turn out to be a gagging screamer...

 

[Seff]

Religious girls tend to be total vixens in bed. Yay for repressed sexuality.

 

[Cyborg Eastern European]

I think it's quiet and reserved in general you're supposed to look for.

 

[shadowarcher]

While "not considering her feelings" and neglecting to give her attention may be valid reasons to break up, I'd certainly not consider them valid reasons to cheat on someone. You honestly don't make him come off as a bad guy, so I do feel bad for him that he's possibly being strung along until she finds someone else to take care of her.

Honestly I did feel bad this morning when I decided to confess to her. He really does seem like a genuinely nice guy and I didn't want to be responsible for practically ruining his life for the next couple of years, but in the end it is her decision and not mine to be with who she chooses, I would have quite gladly let her stay with him and continue being friends if that's what she wanted.

Also we're not in a relationship and just sticking to being best friends for now so it's technically not cheating (emotional yes, but not physical).

 

[Cyborg Eastern European]

There are no technicalities in relationships.

 

[Elisianthus]

Religious girls tend to be total vixens in bed. Yay for repressed sexuality.

It's adorable, I must say. She's generally foul minded, innuendo spouting and everything, but the moment it's personal she goes all red and shouts at me to shut up. 

 

[MadocComadrin]

Endless service? Strangely conservative views? I know you're Catholic Madoc, but I honestly Catholicism find it a little bit exotic and inexplicable. 

And I find it extremely insulting that you buy directly into the stereotypes of Catholicism. Yes, there are hard-line dogmatic Catholics, but most of us are pretty much normal people. Also keep in mind that modern Catholicism is probably less conservative than some of the more dominant American denominations and that there is plenty of healthy arguing about various stances within the Church. 

 

[Anarion]

I used to be in a similar situation as Arvonski, with a woman being in love with me (and vice versa) but living with a guy who seemed great but whom she didn't love anymore. She ended up with someone else, but her relationship was moribund anyway. Don't feel bad if she breaks it up, she really should be frank with her boyfriend if she feels like that.

Madoc, I am only basing that on my experiences with my Catholic ex. The one mass I went with her with really felt endless and confusing, and she and her parents really were more conservative than what I'm used to. I didn't mean it entirely seriously, hence the " ".

 

[Arvenski]

I used to be in a similar situation as Arvonski

Wat.

 

[Anarion]

Sorry, Volkonski.
I'm a little bit drunk. 

 

[shadowarcher]

I used to be in a similar situation as Arvonski, with a woman being in love with me (and vice versa) but living with a guy who seemed great but whom she didn't love anymore. She ended up with someone else, but her relationship was moribund anyway. Don't feel bad if she breaks it up, she really should be frank with her boyfriend if she feels like that.

And she will be once she has secured her current job placement and rented a room in a house, if she were to tell him now then she'd be homeless and with no guarantee of any income whatsoever. Yeah I know, it sounds really horrible for her to do that and yes you guys are right for me to be wary about her, but I'm willing to give it a shot and see how things go, even if it could possibly end up very badly for me.

 

[Eктωρ]

And I find it extremely insulting that you buy directly into the stereotypes of Catholicism. Yes, there are hard-line dogmatic Catholics, but most of us are pretty much normal people. Also keep in mind that modern Catholicism is probably less conservative than some of the more dominant American denominations and that there is plenty of healthy arguing about various stances within the Church.

And the countries with a Catholic majority are very conservative in general for no absolute reason, right? Come on dude, being raised in an environment with many many many Catholic people makes me come to the conclusion that while yes, most Catholic people are normal people who go to mass and have a weak spot for saint imagery, there's a lot of really conservative people in it, specially when being strictly Catholic in views is already 50% of what conservatism represents in a good part of the Western world. I find it really bizarre that countries like the US have Catholics as a minority, heck, I'd have a massive culture shock going to a place where most people at least don't say stuff like "oh, cross and creed" as an expletive

 

[Elisianthus]

**** guys, she's a regular person, not a member of the Spanish Inquisition.

 

[Cyborg Eastern European]

Just wait till she mounts you in the comfy chair.

 

[Elisianthus]

Her sofa was kinda nice. So was her bed. Comfy as hell.