What is wrong with TDM? I just joined the MP community and find it a suitable place to exercise MP fighting. Which is pritty demanding. For me as MP newcomer it's very challenging, so it's not boring (yet).
I think you partially answered your own question. There is just not enough people for other than TDM. When I first openned up MP I reviewed the options and found the clan section. Frankly, I do not know 6 other people who plays M&B bannerlord to create my own. So I can only join some other clan.
However my first impression is pritty drastic. I don't know MP yet but everyone is **** fast there. I wonder how is that possible... is there a skill progression too (as in SP)?