After being affiliated with Jarl Turya's family for some time, I can say I'm not totally happy with some aspects. For example, the relationship loss with every member should one of those morons wander off and get defeated or captured. If that's going to happen, then I want every family lord to inform me where they're going and what they're up to before they leave the house. Or if they get captured and I rescue them, I should get the same +7 relationship boost with every family member, not just the rescued member. Jarl Olaf has been captured 4 times in this game; I have rescued him three times,twice from castles and once from the enemy lord in the field, so his relationship with me is still pretty tight, but my wife, Lady Endegrid, Jarl Turya's daughter has gone from 85 when we were married down to 64.
Meanwhile Jarl Olaf, awarded Praven when we took it from the Swadians, garrisoned it with only 104 troops so when Rhoducks declare war "to curb our power", Praven falls easily. Olaf wasn't home. He was off getting captured by Vaegirs while trying to loot their village of Sheep****. I rescue him from Radogir Castle. Next time I see him he's got 41 troops and headed out. Vaegirs capture him again while he's trying to loot Tismirr. Meanwhile Jarl Marayirr and then Jarl Turya get captured. More relationship hits. I rescue both from the lords who captured them, but I never recover any relations with any of the women.
Meanwhile Jarl Olaf, awarded Praven when we took it from the Swadians, garrisoned it with only 104 troops so when Rhoducks declare war "to curb our power", Praven falls easily. Olaf wasn't home. He was off getting captured by Vaegirs while trying to loot their village of Sheep****. I rescue him from Radogir Castle. Next time I see him he's got 41 troops and headed out. Vaegirs capture him again while he's trying to loot Tismirr. Meanwhile Jarl Marayirr and then Jarl Turya get captured. More relationship hits. I rescue both from the lords who captured them, but I never recover any relations with any of the women.