Thx, Squibbles.
It works now, or rather I have the perp with me when I talk to the guy in the village.
However, I still can't convince him to let bygones me bygones, and he and his chums kill the perp before i can intervene in any meaningful way
I think I'll just ignore the Family Feud quests (along with the Get Weapons for..., Train Troops for..., Find daughter of ..., etc.).
After 74 hours in game I'm getting a little weary of the quests, which are quite repetitive and don't provide enough Renown to get me to Tier 3 and start my own kingdom.
One tires of endless little quests, and hunting parties of looters, raiders and bandits, which just give one minimal amounts of renown...