This might be an unpopulair way.. But.. I finished the game (after 142 hours - the first 60 I just ran arround making money so snowballing was still a thing in those patches). The way I "won" was by choppin heads. After fighting the same army for the 8th or 9th time. I got annoyed. And chopped a few heads. Instantly after a patch next week I was hated by all.
Figures that you can't be hated.. If there is no one left to hate you, right? So I did. Result: everyone dead, me, age 70 something, sole ruler. Towns love me again due to high security though. Which is nice