Caba`drin:
You don't have to apologise, we have different experiences and points of wiev.
Destroying the hideout changes nearly nothing because it will be respawned near the same place and the bandits are sill there - they only change their home base.
Example: There is no way to protect Udinad peasants from Sea Raiders unless you stay there and follow them all the time cause the base is always near Udinad..
If you leave the hideout alone, the bandits grow stronger and stronger to about quantity of 30-50, they become to slow to chase villagers who travel in groups of 9-13 (approximately), so the bandits become a threat to lords (with armies about 30-40 who raid your villages) and not the villagers.
The only suggestion I agree with you is to move the hideouts away from the main caravan trade routes.