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  1. Seff

    Say Cheese v2

    You have huuuuge... tracts of land.
  2. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    Some of the older dudes being gay on each other all the time.
    No idea what you're referring to.
    Go army! That's where I was introduced to the ways of warband a nco at the time showed me then here I am in Montana doing cowboy sh*t and bannerlordif waiting for 2.0!
    Yeah, we did a lot of gaming in our down time too. Montana is a beautiful place.
  3. Seff

    Say Cheese v2

    Looking good :wink:
  4. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    Yeah, this place is dead. :lol:
  5. Seff

    Say Cheese v2

    UfURu.jpg
  6. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    Agreed, children deprive us of sleep. My ex suggested making a second, I declined.
  7. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    Hey, Folth.

    SSH: Doing just fine - you?
  8. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Case in point: I've met six interested women through Iron Age, WWII reenactment, and the board gaming club.
  9. Seff

    Your Car

    I drove an M16 halftrack recently. That was pretty damn good.
  10. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    Oh, do you? I hope he's doing alright. I know it's been eons but I still think of you all and Cymro from time to time. RIP.
    Ah yes, Cymro. Gods, it's more than 10 years since he died.
    I suspect Lep's doing well.
  11. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    I have Lep on my FB somewhere...
  12. Seff

    Who of the old guard are still around?

    There's only like 2½ years until I've been here 20 years. It's already more than half of my life.
  13. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Astrology is a stretch for me, but it depends how much of a believer they are.

    Moon landings is dumb, so is anti-vaxxer. JFK is more in the realm of speculation, which can be fun as a passtime - but shouldn't be the kind of stuff that's brought up at family dinners.
  14. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    It would be impossible for me to see them as a peer, and that's a prerequisite for me to be in a relationship with someone.
  15. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Yeah, that does sound eerily similar.
  16. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    :lol:
  17. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Makes a lot of sense. You need some kind of a ****test to find which is it or to look for other dependency patterns when the next victim walks into your life.

    You need to log in to be able to see what possibly inspired your stories.
    I do indeed need a test - or to trust my gut about red flags a bit more.
    Game looks horrible. :lol:
  18. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Vader: the sympathetic interpretation, which I've given, is that her emotional state fluctuated over time. It's probable that she didn't really fall in love with me the first time - but that missing our interactions/having SOMEONE, led her back to me, those two next times.

    I definitely have a hero/savior complex of some kind, though the mother of my son did not need to be saved, and I was still attracted to her. I'm a fixer, and I want to help people.

    I don't think I'm attracted to vulnerability in and of itself(it's rather unattractive), but rather the intensity (and how fast connections tend to form) that comes when women are vulnerable. It's basically really easy for them to get dependent, and I misjudge that dependence as genuine romantic interest, in me. Does that make sense?

    A stable and independent woman would see a stable and independent man - I've dated one, and if she wasn't boring as hell, we'd be a good match. A stable woman with a bit more intellect than the one I dated, would be wonderful. Nadia has intellect, it's what made me fall for her. Not the craziness. :lol:

    Can't see the game link.



    Aveenski: Don't stick your **** in crazy, son.
  19. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    I'll regale my tale, then.
    Jan 2021: Match with Nadia. She's my age, has a son my son's age, and we hit it off extremely fast. Texting back and forth a few weeks, and then decide to meet up. The evening before we're supposed to meet, she calls it off, saying that an ex has wanted to try things one more time with her. We lose contact.
    Jan 2022: We match again. She's over aforementioned ex, and we basically fall back into the same deep connection/conversation. After a few weeks, we meet (children **** schedules up, so it took a while). From there on, we see each other every week, when possible. She's been off work for a while with stress, at that point, but it doesn't bother me.
    March 2022: Her father is diagnosed with lung cancer. This cuts down on her weekend time with me, as she wants to go to him. Totally natural response, that I go along with.
    June 2022: She starts being more brief with me, and having less time for me, which is understandable - her father isn't doing well, and she's the one that has to start thinking about how to settle his affairs, IF something should happen.
    July 4th-ish: She ends it, saying her father was deemed terminal a week prior, and that she's unable to feel her attraction to me, when I'm not near her. Basically our relation creates a "bubble" of freedom, but not one she can really experience often enough for her to thrive. We break contact.
    July 5th: She writes me a happy birthday message, and asks if it's okay that she resumes contact. I say thanks, and say "I don't really know", so she doesn't pursue it further.
    July 18th-ish: She puts up a "Goodbye Dad" message on FB, he died July 10th. I react to it, and we end up writing again. She's missed me, etc etc. I invite her over for a few days later. All is good, she says she's really missed me, and we agree to slowly start up again.
    August 4th: She says she's falling back into the same pattern, and I recognize it too - she's just not capable of feeling for me, while also handling grief. We break contact. At this point I keep an eye on her IG stories and FB posts, looking for clues in either direction. To my mind, she's clearly still interested, so I'm biding my time. OTOH, I'm well aware that she's going though a bunch of stuff, and that it might be years before she's ready for any serious form of commitment. My rule of thumb is thus: Her birthday is Nov 4th - I didn't set an alarm or a reminder, relying instead on memory. If I forgot, I'd obviously gotten over her. If not, then I'd shoot her a nice, neutral "happy birthday" message.
    October 28th: She called me at 5 AM, drunk, to talk. I didn't hear it, so I didn't pick up. Did write her a message, though, so we resumed contact. She was adamant she had gotten better, and was ready to try things out. We saw each other as much as possible (I had my son full time during November, so it was limited).
    November 28th: She came over, after a week of being ill with a stomach flue (thus, not much contact), and said she no longer felt desire for me. She also said she'd begun crying a lot about her father again during that week, but insisted the two weren't related. We broke contact, and I removed her from social media.

    My feeling at this time: We had an amazing connection, which is really what I miss. I wasn't happy with how much we saw each other, and I wasn't happy with her on/off contact. She also represented the dream of finding a woman with the same priorities as me, someone that understands why I prioritize my son like I do - as well as a woman that could be my partner and confidante.
    But, she wasn't actually that person. She also didn't appreciate my humor, which meant I put a lid on it - never a good sign. It occurs to me now, that I've never known her - only her when she's sick with stress, and when she's going through sorrow.

    So, I don't think the girl I fell in love with, really exists/was ever attainable. I can certainly feel that I'm not particularly jealous of the next guy she finds, because he's gonna inherit all her baggage and emotional rollercoasters. :lol:
  20. Seff

    Dating Thread, v. II

    Yeah man, stop spamming.
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