I'm in a sticky situation, and need some advice. It's quite long, so I'll split it into small paragraphs.
I'm the marshal of the D'Shar. I have Savador Castle and Kogosi as my fiefs. The D'Shar used to be the superpower, before I joined them, they had all of the Fierdsvain lands except for Javiksholm. Now, we've lost Ansen Lodge, Ironoak Castle and Valonbray to Ravenstern.
Currently, we're at war with the remnants of the Fierdsvain and Ravenstern (who have massive armies, by the way).
My problem is this: I don't have many Lords with me, because the majority are just patrolling their own lands willy nilly, and I don't have the time to go back to the desert to tell them to help me. The number of troops I have combined with the Lords that are following me is around 800. Ravenstern have around 1600 troops, since all their Lords are following their Marshal, and their army has around 250 knights: Knights of the Dragon, Ravenstern Knights & the knights from Oswald de Fleur, since they hired him.
Ours, in comparison, has the usual D'Shar cavalry: Dervish Raiders, plus my own, which ain't great (a few Rogue Knights & various armoured cavalry units I've picked up over the 430 game days I've been playing). We also have a lack of decent D'Shar infantry: Mainly Veteran Spearmen, not many Bladesmen, Scorpion Assassins or any Blademasters. Our only really good unit is my 9 Noldor Rangers that I recruited.
Javiksholm's garrison is too big to take without huge losses, and my Lords have a really annoying tendency to run off for no reason while building ladders or siege towers. Valonbray has the same problem: Tonnes of Ravenstern Wardens and Rangers that just eat my armies alive.
I simply don't know what to do, considering the garrison remains at 0 after I take a fief anyway, so they just swoop in and besiege it again, dumping a garrison of 250 in there out of nowhere once taken.
I was thinking of trying to cause a rebellion in the D'Shar, and try to get at least half of the Lords on my side, but I'm not how I would do that, since some hate me (-10 or less relations), and some like me (+10 or higher).
Any tips on what to do?