Barky 说:
MadocComadrin 说:
And the problem with your issue with my statement is that it makes no concerns for locality and context, it makes a sweeping generalization based on (another sweeping generalization) that society is men dominating women at every turn. Women who commit domestic violence are NOT doing so out of self defense (which should not and cannot be confused with retaliation)--especially in the cases of non-reciprocal domestic violence. And the much stronger thing is a bunch of bull**** too. I've seen first-hand how strong the punch from multiple "average" women are. Likewise, a knife or any blunt object can do quite a bit of harm as well. Not only that, but much of the domestic violence perpetrated by women (but also in general) is coupled with other forms of domestic abuse: emotional and economic abuse, threats to themselves or children, etc. And aside from perhaps having somewhat less severe physical injury involved, all forms of domestic abuse are generally equally as damaging and intimidating.
Not only that, you're fallaciously linking men dominating women in a societal form with a man dominating a woman because she is a woman. Even the models that focus on power and domination did not blame mysoginy or inherent reward: where domestic violence occurs, there is utility for the abuser to do so.
And even that ignores things such as psychological issues (especially personality disorders--often highlighting BPD), substance abuse, inter-generational cycles (witnessing abuse as a child can lead to abuse)--which often leads to a believe that domestic abuse and violence is acceptable, and more.
To reiterate--domestic violence is extremely far from an urge to bring societal misogynistic dominance to a personal level.
And no, you're still part of the problem. You're still ignoring problems faced by men because they're not oppressed women--that men cannot suffer in areas that women both do or do not simply because women suffer more in general (and that you view this as oppression adding to your motivation).
'Context'? The context is that men oppress women. That's it. Its an inescapable fact based on easily observable reality. If domestic violence is equal opportunity why are the majority of victims women, and the majority of perpetrators men? Men also carry out other forms of abuse that you list, plus they have physical power, intimidation, and society backing them up. I don't know why you have a problem with
the statistical reality, backed up by multiple studies rather than the one you use to maintain your delusional thinking. (and before you accuse me of using 'biased' statistics again, bare in mind that these are from a domestic abuse charity that also has a 'help for men' section on their website)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ANNO33UOLE <- Male on female
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtVHnZX8E50 <- Both
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlFAd4YdQks <- Female on male
Look at society accepting all that abuse! Oh wait, no they don't. They immediately get ganked by a groups of men and women who won't take it. And look at how unacceptable woman on male abuse is! Oh wait, the majority of people don't give a ****. And I've also gathered some sources on domestic abuse.
http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm Cites a lot of sources, so might be worth to be looked into. Even with a set conclusion.
''Capaldi, D. M. & Crosby, L. (1997). Observed and reported psychological and physical aggression in young, at-risk couples. Social Development, 6, 184-206. (A sample of 118 young men and their dating partners were surveyed regarding their own physical aggression as well as that of their partners. Findings reveal that 31% of men and 36% of women engaged "in an act of physical aggression against their current partner.") ''
''Carlson, B. E. (1987). Dating violence: a research review and comparison with spouse abuse. Social Casework, 68, 16-23. (Reviews research on dating violence and finds that men and women are equally likely to aggress against their partners and that "the frequency of aggressive acts is inversely related to the likelihood of their causing physical injury.") ''
''Amendt, G. (200

. I didn’t divorce my kids!: How fathers deal with family break-ups. Campus Verlag Publishers. (In Chapter 5 author presents data from an internet survey of 3600 divorced German fathers. Results reveal that 1/3 of men reported episodes of physical violence during the divorce process and 2/3 of these were initiated by ex-partners.)''
''Arriaga, X. B., & Foshee, V. A. (2004). Adolescent dating violence. Do adolescents follow in their friends' or their parents' footsteps? Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 19, 162-184. (A modified version of Conflict Tactics Scale was administered on two occasions, 6 months apart, to 526 adolescents, <280 girls, 246 boys> whose median age was 13. Results reveal that 28% of girls reported perpetrating violence with their partners <17% moderate, 11% severe> on occasion one, while 42% of girls reported perpetrating violence <25% moderate, 17% severe> on occasion two. For boys, 11% reported perpetrating violence <6% moderate, 5% severe> on occasion one, while 21% reported perpetrating violence <6% moderate, 15% severe> on occasion two. In terms of victimization, 33% of girls, and 38% of boys reported being victims of partner aggression on occasion one and 47% of girls and 49% of boys reported victimization on occasion two.''
Honestly, after skimming through their report. I've found no reason why the findings in their studies are so much different than all studies I cited. However there might be some reasons, first is the term ''domestic violence '' which to my knowledge can include cursing and screaming, so different definitions might find different things. But I did find this pretty ****ing amazing. ''On average, a woman is assaulted 35 times before her first call to the police (Jaffe, 1982)''. First of all how the **** do they measure what is done before the police is called? Obviously it's solely based on what the victims say has happened and I can't imagine they're keeping scores. And I'm starting to suspect cursing is considered assault.