Lol Uhtred, then why are you looking for videos on tactics if you already pretty know most of them. The giving your soldiers command to mount seems like a neat trick I will make sure to use in the future. I try not to "provoke" enemy attacks on my own because I feel cheap doing it. While sending out a couple of lonesome companions or "fodder" troops pretty much does the same thing at least you aren't getting things for free, you are sacrificing some men to lead the enemy into am ambush. I suppose its a matter of taste/preference.
Same deal with kiting enemies by myself, I feel cheap doing it XD. So instead I tell either my mounted companions or a special cavalry unit to "follow me" and do the same thing but with a small mounted company. Realistically speaking, one man would not draw the attention of so many enemies and would die very quickly (its just that the warband AI is programmed to want to give you their "Love"). A small unit however could, and such tactics were used with great success by armies utilizing light/skirmishing cavalry (Persians, Genghis khan etc).
I tend to "nerf" myself, or restrain myself from using certain tactics, because it makes the game way too easy for me. Generally speaking, whenever I decide whenever this or that is "fair", I ask myself "Would I be able to use such a tactic if the AI wasn't so darn stupid?". For example a very effective tactic against enemy cavalry-heavy armies if you are fighting in the plains is to simply park your troops in a loose formation right up against the map boundary. The enemy cavalry runs right into it and you can easily take care of them with minimal losses. But that feels really exploity so I don't. Another thing I don't do is park my army on top of a mountain (you know, those HUGE hills that your troops will spend 1-2 minutes climbing). No general in their right mind would attack someone on such a defensive position unless very desperate or extremely confident in their skills or numerical advantage. I still use hills, just not mountains.