Just had a weird bug which ruined my game.
So my character married a woman, and I used the mod option from the dialogue to put her in my warband. So far, so good.
Then, I rebelled against my king and formed my own country, based in Vientiane, which was my capital. I set up my wife as my minister.
I may have rebelled too soon, as a bit later my former king, the Mac dynasty, comes calling with 600 or so men. I lose the city, my wife gets knocked unconscious in the battle, and I am thrown in the dungeon.
I escape, and quickly gather forces from my castles, and I retake the city. My wife is nowhere to be found. My chancellor, financial, and military advisers are still there.
I do a companion look up and it says she is in Da Nang. I go to Da Nang and she is there, back in her original dress, not the armor I gave her. She is in the great hall right in front of the throne. Attempting to speak with her brings up a dialogue that goes like her saying something like "If you do not surrender I will attack" and then I reply "I am not afraid of you" (or something like that, not a normal dialogue for this part of the game). She stays there forever. She is still shown as my wife in the game, but she is neither my minister or my companion, and I cannot appoint anyone else to the minister role, and so therefore cannot appoint new nobles except when I conquer a new fief. I also cannot remarry, though there is no gameplay reason why I would need to do that.
As a result, my nobles all hate me, and I had to quit my game - far too soon.
Why she would go to Da Nang of all places is beyond me, as she was Mac dynasty and I met her in Don Kinh. Da Nang belonged to Le dynasty.
I don't know if this is a bug with the "wife as companion" mod, or a bug with the "minister in city that has been conquered and then retaken" event that I see some other posts of this forum relating to. It's a damn shame though, and now after putting 20+ hours into the mod I have to start from scratch and that makes me a sad panda. The game is so slow to get to where I was, ready to form a kingdom.
Anyway, it's too late to actually help me, but I wanted to see if anyone had a similar problem to this (I know other mods allow the wife to be a companion and a minister as well) as if I know precisely what caused it I can avoid it in the future.
Thanks!
-Marcus