Lord Brutus 说:
It is still worth doing missions for your village to improve their relationship with you. At high levels they provide high level troops when you recruit from that village. I've gotten 8 Nord veterans at once from a village I owned. You can get 16 Nord warriors at other levels of relationship. So, build the mill and the outpost so you get extra time to respond if someone tries to loot your village.
This part i did not know...

, Cheers JosieJ.
Actually, if you've got the Diplomacy mod, you don't even have to bother with this: just set the tax rate to "Low" or "Very Low," and your relation with the village will improve constantly on its own. Once it gets high enough, set the tax rate back to "Normal."
Save your energy to do quests to improve your relation with more conveniently located villages that you don't actually own.