Gsanders, I only recently picked Perisno back up after a long break from Warband altogether. I don't know you at all - just from the posts I've read from you here during the holidays. I hope this doesn't come off as too fanboyish, but I just want to give you some praise here. I've just come home from a New Years party with a bit of drinking done, so bear that in mind.
The journey this mod has made since I last played it is quite impressive, and I'm sure you had no small part in that. You come off as a very dedicated guy with a heart for the mod and who tries to adress everything that people bring up. It seems somehow a lot of responsibility ended up on your shoulders, perhaps because you stepped up with a vision and some energy. I'd say you're probably worth your weight in gold to Perisno.
And no, I don't think you come off as grumpy. If you refer to the posts I'm thinking of, you just had a reaction from being pushed to the brink where you were already at some kind of limit. People can be insensitive sometimes and if you don't mark a limit they'll just keep pushing. What you do is taking what people say seriously. You're honest about what can be reasonably be fixed and not, priorities, your personal visions and thoughts, etc. Straightforward, open - no nonsense. I don't know if it means much, but I'd just like to give you a word of encouragement and appreciation, and as a professional tester I love to work with people like you. In some ways I've been in your seat (different context but same general situation), and I eventually got burnt out completely. I hope it doesn't happen to you, but just in case I want to say to everyone here who enjoy this mod and others like it:
Report bugs and care about the mod, but always do it with respect, without expectations and with a great deal of patience. Be nice to the modders, for without them you wouldn't even be here posting. They do something out passion which provides others with fun and extra value out of a game. It takes tremendous amounts of energy not only to do the actual work, but to think about what needs to be done, vision, and to live in that world as part of a mod project. Everything the modders do, every single thing even from the very first line of code - is a bonus.