He's in the low 60's right now, so not too bad atm. But he drops like a stone in water...I did discover making him marshall for a few days get's me a nice relations boost, so I've been doing that. I like the idea of leading him into battle, I'm going to do that as well.
I mainly let my lords do whatever they like, especially the raiding, and take fiefs by myself.
Just actually held my first (super stressful) feast during war times. Not sure it's worth a few points, not well the enemies are at the gates anyway. I tried to make peace with Ragnar first, but he won't budge (even though he's on my friend list
) I don't have many lords yet, but most did come. All except a couple who decided pillaging villages would be more fun.