Thanks for the tip.
Oldest past away, Berican of Vlandia of the dey Rothad clan. Passed away at 96. Had 224 Steward, 208 leadership, 97 Tactics, 121 in 2H and Polearm. Based on those stats I'm guessing he was leading a clan party until he died.
Oldest alive is Tharos of the Vizartos of the Southern Empire. Still kicking at 94.
And since I posted this, Zhira had a birthday and is now 88.
There are 7 people in my game that have made it to 90.