Wait...why wouldn't I need the option if I'm hosting the game? Again, maybe I'm misunderstanding.
What I'm attempting to do is host games with my kid and bots/AI, without archery getting involved. It seems that even with the setting enabled, although we (human players) cannot choose archery, the bots do so readily, completely ignoring the setting. I'm using 1.174, GOG (no one there is even discussing Warband, it seems).
Am I missing something obvious? Please inform, and thanks for responding. You're the first out of 83 reads at this point.