you are not wrong...but at the same time fighting skills give also government perks....and you know what i mean about looks.bro!i am sure you have seen in game female characters *Rhaghea couch cough cough* and was like ''daaaaamn i need her to make me babies!''I try to marry in the first year of the game.
I go for the following:
1. Faction of future intent to join or rule - partner may become a governor so good to know.
2. High traits: steward, charm, trade, tactics, leadership - charm because I'll leave them in a city for a few years where I want to use as a base to get my recruit levels up.
3. Armour and bow. For me, having good armour and a noble bow allows me to go without a party for a year or two - solo runs speed up your faction and character levelling up.
I usually end up marrying one of a small group of the same men or women (I play as either depending on my mood) where traits align with gear. But some gear I leave for down the track (I used to look for a glaive or rhomphalia, but I tend to go for a sledge hammer early game now). I'll marry off my brothers strategically to get more gear, a good horse, imperial armour or good trade skills (because they're all going to run caravans in the early game - brothers and all) - unless there's someone left on the shelf with really high medicine or engineering, I might take them into my party.
I don't care about their fighting skills. They're all going to end up alongside the archers with a crossbow anyway.
What's this 'looks' thing you talk about?
i just deleted my 20 hours save file cuz i felt like i did a bad wife choice..(dont even comment it...i know its stupid to delete it just cuz of this but heyyyy...i like it how i like lol)...i totally get it my dude...i do the same...hell..Svana looks AMAZING...a bit tall...but still...also check Silvid from Vlandia...she is a hot oneI don't care about age or culture. I go for the cuties and hotties. Weather they're feminine or amazonian. I use console commands as well because I HATE the current system that's a one try and most likely to fail even with 300+ charm. Lets see I married
Ira (if I can't lay with her mom I'll take the daughter)
Zuad (cutest Aserai)
Arwa (most exotic of the Aserai bachelorettes)
Corein (cutest Battanian and a decent warrior)
Siga (mature women ftw death by snoo snoo)
Svana (another dominate looking woman that could shatter my pelvic bone any day)
Bolat (adorable young Khuzait bae)
Yana (if I can't have her mom I'll take her instead)
I honestly don't care much about the clan, age, race, or fighting capability. I just look at their appearance because what else is there? Its no like The Sims where they have personalities. We'll need modders to add those things like the unique companions from Warband.
Oh I just noticed I never married a Vlandian woman. Heh they don't got any good candidates in my eyes. Plus there's no feasts so I don't care for their culture yet. Gotta wait a few hundred years till Warband kicks in for Butter Feasts galore.