lord relations dropping too fast

[HunterAlpha1]

so, i'm a king and having trouble maintaining good relations with my lords.  i know that in this mod you're supposed to go near your lords from time to time or they start to think they can get away with rebellion, but this is ridiculous.  it seems that unless i follow my lords everywhere, all the time, they desert me almost instantly. 

if you're going to make it so your relations with your lords drop this quickly, then at least allow us to do quests for them to make it possible to keep lords in your kingdom.

[Crosby 4HyG]

so, i'm a king and having trouble maintaining good relations with my lords.  i know that in this mod you're supposed to go near your lords from time to time or they start to think they can get away with rebellion, but this is ridiculous.  it seems that unless i follow my lords everywhere, all the time, they desert me almost instantly. 

if you're going to make it so your relations with your lords drop this quickly, then at least allow us to do quests for them to make it possible to keep lords in your kingdom.

I couldn't agree more dude. The relation system with your vassals is completely stupid to be honest. Every time I award a fief to a lord it drops the relation with every other lord by 2-4.

I'd like to see them impliment a more reasonable system. Let's say for example that you have 5 lords and 4 of them have 3 fiefs each and one of them has none. The guys who already have fiefs shouldn't be selfish little kids about everything, they should realize that each lord of the kingdom needs some way to make income, and maybe the ones who don't have douchebag personalities would even increase slightly when they see you're trying to be fair to everyone.

The best way I've found to maintain a decent relationship with vassals is to keep no more than 5 or 6 of them, because otherwise it simply becomes impossible to keep everyone happy. Also, if you declare yourself as marshal and seige an enemy town/castle with as many vassals on your side as possible, it often increases their relation with you by 1-2 when you talk to each of them individually after the battle.

[HunterAlpha1]

so, i'm a king and having trouble maintaining good relations with my lords.  i know that in this mod you're supposed to go near your lords from time to time or they start to think they can get away with rebellion, but this is ridiculous.  it seems that unless i follow my lords everywhere, all the time, they desert me almost instantly. 

if you're going to make it so your relations with your lords drop this quickly, then at least allow us to do quests for them to make it possible to keep lords in your kingdom.

I couldn't agree more dude. The relation system with your vassals is completely stupid to be honest. Every time I award a fief to a lord it drops the relation with every other lord by 2-4.

I'd like to see them impliment a more reasonable system. Let's say for example that you have 5 lords and 4 of them have 3 fiefs each and one of them has none. The guys who already have fiefs shouldn't be selfish little kids about everything, they should realize that each lord of the kingdom needs some way to make income, and maybe the ones who don't have douchebag personalities would even increase slightly when they see you're trying to be fair to everyone.

The best way I've found to maintain a decent relationship with vassals is to keep no more than 5 or 6 of them, because otherwise it simply becomes impossible to keep everyone happy. Also, if you declare yourself as marshal and seige an enemy town/castle with as many vassals on your side as possible, it often increases their relation with you by 1-2 when you talk to each of them individually after the battle.

yeah i know that talking to your lords after a siege increases relation.  also, when they are fighting an enemy and are heavily outnumbered and you help your relation with them increases. 

before you give fiefs away you can ask all your lords who they think should receive the fief, and they will either support one of their friends or themselves.  if you give it to someone they like you get a relation bonus both with the lord you gave it to and the lords who supported them. 

so i don't mind the whole giving fiefs relation drop thing, it just pisses me off that their relations with you drops so quickly without you doing anything.

[Subitai]

Just reading your post I couldn't help but think about other ways to help counter the loss so...I hope you don't mind the "PiggY Back" onto your thread to add suggestions?

1) Able to increase relation with your Vassel by doing a special quest(s) that are specifically designed for this purpose.  Meaning these quests are always availble to you.

For example, giving them "X" number of special kind of troops they want to fill their ranks boosts relation by 5 or something.

2) How about letting YOU THE KING... Throw your own Feast with Tournyment for change???   Give them a big party with lots of foods and such for  big boost in relations? 
 

3)  Or how about a Monetary Bribe Option for a relation boost.  "Bam Here's 10,000 Denars...you better love me long time now"!

just some ideas
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[HunterAlpha1]

you can already hold a feast, you just have to be married first.