scootar said:
I define fate as all things that have or will happen to you and when they happen.
That may be how you define it, but it's not how my Oxford English Dictionary defines it. And if we can't even agree on a universal definition of a term before we have a discussion that evolves around it, then that discussion is already doomed.
Anyhoo.
My main problems with fate are thus:
-If fate exists, I already have a fixed 'destiny' that I cannot overcome. This I do not believe.
-If fate exists, and our destiny has been fixed from the moment we were born, then people who claim to 'read' fate, such as oracles, psychics, tarot readers, astrologers, andsoforth, could be given more credibility than they deserve (I do not believe in fortune telling).
-If fate exists, then it takes away the onus of blame or responsibility. For example, a lawyer could argue that his client, who has just murdered eight people, cannot be held truly responsible for his actions because he was 'fated' to do it.
-The concept of fate can be dangerously twisted as an excuse to not do anything, or to continue destructive behaviour. Somebody who is addicted to heroin may believe that it's fate, and believe that seeking help is pointless because they don't have the power to change if 'fate' dictates otherwise. Somebody who has no job may believe that it's fate, and that if fate wants them to have a job, it will mysteriously give them one without them having to do anything.
Fate is a nice concept, very mystical, for stories and books. But for me, in the real world, it just doesn't work. My future is what I make it. May fate doesn't exist because my life has not been pre-destined, as time is linear.