Swordmaster said:
There are some facts we can't control or make in our life (related to fate); like you birth date, where you were born, whose you father and mother are, our death etc...
Facts cannot be related to fate. Facts can be quantified (if we assume that reality is what we perceive around us). You were born. Fact. You will die. Fact. The plates move. Fact. You missed the bus. Fact. You fell in love. Fact. But there is no consciousness behind the actions and events that lead to what happens in your life. It is down to a mixture of how you react to your situations, and the decisions that you make.
For example, my brother is a useless lazy bastard who can't keep a job because he keeps turning up late, or not at all, or going to work then going home 'ill' so that he can go out with his friends instead. It wasn't fate that led him to be this way, it was his own laziness and the desire to take as much as he can from society without putting anything into it. He moans when he has no money and tries to sponge off the rest of the family, but if he just grew a pair and started working, he could earn his own money. It is his free will to not turn up for work and get himself fired, therefore it is his free will that he has no money.
I face a choice tomorrow; I can get up and go to work, or I can stay at home. That I choose to go to work is not fate, it is me being aware of the consequences of my actions (something which my brother chooses to blissfully ignore) and not being a complete moron.
Plus, it was never fated that you be born. You, as a person, are continually developing your personality, who you are. If you had been born on a council estate, the son of a whore and a crack dealer, and then you likewise became a pusher, then according to you, that would be fate. If you killed a man tomorrow, that would be fate. It would also be fate if you didn't. It would be fate if you ate a burger and contracted BSc. Or it would be fate if you didn't.
The concept of fate works on an action and an event. You don't walk down a street and think "It's fate that I walk down this street", because nothing has happened to cause you to think like that. Why should it matter, in that moment, what street you walk down? But if you walk down the street, see a friend across the road, cross over to meet him, and a few seconds later a car crashes into the exact spot where you were stood, you might think "It's fate that I saw my friend and crossed over at that exact moment before the car hit." Only looking back can you decide if something is fated, and that is what makes it a human perception, rather than something that actually exists and can be measured.